After the State of Emergency was lifted, I visited the woman I’ve been seeing who lives far away for the first time in a while. When I saw her again after a month, she had gained so much weight that she looked like a completely different person—probably about 10 kg. I couldn’t bring myself to mention it, so we said goodbye. What kinds of situations might cause a woman to gain that much weight?
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1. Stress
2. She received a generous allowance from another papa and, now that she had more money to spend, ate delicious food every day
3. She received a lot of offers and has been frequently eating delicious meals on dates
3. Pregnancy
4. She wanted to gain weight
5. An irregular menstrual cycle or an illness
I’m confused and worried, and frustrated that I can’t ask her, while also feeling jealous and wondering whether she may have found someone else…
I’ve tried thinking of all the possibilities, but which do you think is the most likely?
You can’t exactly ask, “Have you gained weight?” But she looked so different that I was really taken aback.
When women are under stress, are they more likely to lose weight or gain weight?
I thought I was the only one, but could she have received offers from another papa and become closer to him?
Thank you in advance.
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here as well.
Thank you for your question.
If she works from home, that could be the reason.
When you work from home, you can end up eating chocolate and snacks while working, and things can get pretty bad.
When you go to the office, you can manage not to eat anything, but at home…
You don’t even have to leave the house all day. It’s incredibly unhealthy.
You might think, “Why not just go outside?” But then you start wondering, “What’s the point of going out if I don’t have a reason?”
What about food?
If you go grocery shopping once a week, you can get enough to last the whole week. (笑)
It gives you a glimpse into how people who shut themselves away feel. (笑)
Those who are used to staying home might envy being able to earn a salary that way, but for someone who used to go to the office regularly, I think it can lead to weight gain and poor health.
Lack of exercise can also cause all kinds of health problems.
So, considering the current situation, I do think that could be one possible cause.
And if the company instructs employees to work from home, it’s probably difficult to refuse.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
It was probably increased for a combination of reasons. It’s hard to imagine another papa being the reason. If that were the case, she likely would have increased it while you two were seeing each other.
You won’t find an answer by worrying about something you can’t ask her about. I think you have three options: casually ask her the next time you meet, accept her increased allowance and continue seeing her, or end the relationship decisively.
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I’m Marika, and while minor stress makes me gain weight, excessive stress makes me lose it. I’ve only experienced stress severe enough to make me lose weight once in my life.
When we have an argument, giving him something sweet usually keeps him quiet for the time being.
That said, a 10-kg fluctuation is far too much. Even if stress makes you gain weight, it would usually be no more than around 2 kg—and at that point, you’d normally think, “Oh no,” and make some adjustments. Maybe he doesn’t have a scale at home.
As Kazu says, I also think stress and staying home are the causes.
Marika
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I’m Taro, a male member.
Gaining 10 kg in a month is quite a lot. Could it be stress? I don’t think diet alone would cause that much of a change.
If I still liked her regardless of her weight, I’d ask what happened. I’d explain how I feel and then gently ask her about it. Of course, I’d be careful about how I brought it up. I’d try to find a way to make it a topic of conversation. She’s probably aware of it herself, and that may be why she’s been hesitant to meet. Sharing that concern and putting it into perspective as something that isn’t a major issue is important.
I hope you’re able to have a proper conversation the next time you meet.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it’s probably due to stress and staying home. If she had another papa (a male supporter) or was still getting offers, she probably wouldn’t have gained 10 kilos. That said, this wouldn’t apply if her new papa (a male supporter) was a generous (well-paying) papa who prefers plus-size women.
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