I’m Taro, a male member.
If you lower your hips slightly and shift them back, you can aim upward. In the missionary position, the man is positioned a little lower—closer to the woman’s feet—from her perspective. This gives him more room around his lower body, so the idea is to wrap his hips around toward her backside, lower the base, and create the right angle. Once you’ve positioned yourself properly with your upper body raised, hug her and move into the missionary position—that’s it.
Rather than thrusting back and forth, stay fully in position and move with a vibrating motion. Imagine pressing against a wall with your hand without taking it off, instead of pushing repeatedly. The reason is that it prevents your position from shifting. Also, without the back-and-forth motion, there’s less stimulation for the man, so even if you’re prone to finishing quickly, you can last longer. And for the woman, since she can’t build up much momentum, the result is gentler thrusting. It’s all benefits. Sorry for explaining it like an infomercial.
For personal use, I think the one Mac recommended before might be good. I believe it was shaped like an anteater, with the tip vibrating. I looked for about a minute but couldn’t find it and started getting lazy, so could you take it from here and figure it out yourself?
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m not quite sure what you mean by “the upper area,” but I think it would help to explain where you want him to thrust after he inserts a finger or his penis.
It depends on the shape of his penis, but you could try adjusting the angle of penetration by placing a pillow or cushion under your lower back.
As for toys for masturbation, if you prefer stimulation inside, why not look for a vibrator shaped to stimulate the upper part of the deeper area?
