I’ve been a female member of the salon for about four months. Does an unsuccessful setting affect a woman’s evaluation?

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well. Thank you for your question. Haneda, SALON’s unit manager (essentially the manager of SALON), has already answered this, so I hope you’ll find that response helpful. That said, regarding the statement, “A failed match has absolutely nothing to do with a woman’s evaluation,” I think it depends on how you define “evaluation.” For example, at Universe, evaluation is represented by the number of stars. Even if a woman doesn’t receive any offers, her stars don’t decrease, so you could say it doesn’t affect her evaluation. Likewise, even if an adult relationship (intimate) doesn’t take place after a date, her star rating doesn’t decrease, so you could also say that it has no impact on her evaluation. In SALON’s case, this is just my speculation, but I get the impression that things like last-minute cancellations and being late are what affect a woman’s evaluation. In that sense, perhaps it would be fair to say that an unsuccessful match itself doesn’t affect her evaluation. However, if someone has a high number of unsuccessful matches, I think it’s only natural for a man to decide to meet someone else next time. Two unsuccessful matches out of four doesn’t seem like an especially high number to me, though. At SALON, an unsuccessful match means a loss in revenue, so the staff take these matters seriously and think about how they can get the two people to go out together. In that sense, I feel it would be more normal for it to have some kind of impact. > “I was told, in a harsh tone, ‘I’m worried that you may have done something rude,’ and ‘Since you’re the one receiving money, I’d like you to show more consideration.’” This is something that happens at Universe as well, but staff inevitably tend to side with the men. That’s because the men are the ones paying the money that generates revenue. Of course, things wouldn’t work without the women, and the staff understand how important they are. But they also want to generate revenue, so they inevitably end up taking the men’s side. With that in mind, my guess is that a man probably told the staff something like, “That woman was rude,” or “I didn’t feel that she showed much consideration in the following ways,” and the staff simply passed those comments on to you. > “Even though I arrived at the SALON meeting place five minutes early, the staff didn’t check my messages for quite some time, and when the meeting time came, I still couldn’t enter the salon.” It sounds like the staff were busy. I don’t think the questioner was at fault. For those who aren’t familiar with SALON’s system, let me briefly explain: There’s no intercom at the entrance, so there’s no way to notify the staff when you arrive. You have to contact them by another method, but if the staff don’t notice your call or LINE message, they can’t let you in, leaving you waiting outside.

Thank you for your question. The fact that we registered you and introduced you to four people is a clear indication that you are undoubtedly a wonderful woman. Even at SALON, women who are introduced to four people are extremely rare. Not reaching an agreement has absolutely nothing to do with your evaluation as a woman. As I believe we also explained during your interview, we have a maximum of only 30 male members, so we are unable to introduce you to a large number of people. Although you went out of your way to visit us, it is entirely our responsibility that we were unable to help you reach an agreement. I would also like to take this opportunity to apologize for causing you any unpleasant feelings. We sincerely hope you will consider joining Universe Club as well. Thank you for your understanding. Ayano Haneda

I’m Kazu, a male member. Since I’m only a male member, this is just my speculation. First, I think “setting” means different things in your question and on the blog. In your question, “setting” means: whether or not you go out with the woman you were introduced to after talking in a private room at the club. On the blog, “setting” means: arranging the opportunity to talk in a private room at the club. The person who asked the question here seems to have misunderstood the term as well, but using the same word to mean different things is a common cause of miscommunication. Did you think, “Why be so particular about something so trivial?” Personally, I wouldn’t want to date someone who can’t handle this kind of basic communication, because it would inevitably lead to communication problems. If they were just someone I had sex with, it would be enough if they performed well in bed. But if we were going to date, I’d have to pass. > Does an unsuccessful setting affect a woman’s evaluation? Honestly, I think repeatedly failing to go out with a man does affect her evaluation. The previous Q&A puts it rather euphemistically, but speaking frankly as a member, I think women with a string of unsuccessful meetings become harder to recommend. As the other answer says, the staff probably feel bad for both the woman and the man. On top of that, the club earns nothing despite putting in the effort to arrange the setting. Introducing a woman who seems more likely to result in a successful meeting means fewer people are likely to be disappointed, so I think women with a proven track record naturally get priority. I also think failing to arrange the initial conversation can affect her evaluation. It’s obvious that, from the staff’s perspective, women who are easier to schedule are preferable to women who have difficulty making time. Even though you arrived five minutes before the scheduled meeting time, the staff apparently took a while to check your messages. I think you should have clearly told them at the time that you weren’t late.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. > After two of my four offers fell through, the offers suddenly stopped coming. The salon seems pretty tough too, haha. There does seem to be a connection between failed arrangements and how women rate you. I think your own self-assessment—the analysis of why the arrangements fell through—is probably spot-on. I consider myself a super handsome guy, and I sometimes offer guidance, but if it’s advice a woman doesn’t appreciate, she’ll come straight back with, “I don’t want to hear that from some old man,” haha. Other people’s evaluations of you are a lot harsher than you might expect.

Sorry, I’m not the person you were hoping would answer. Isn’t it simply that, like Universe Club, the salon is more likely to approach new members? Since this is an anonymous question box, you didn’t include your name, but there aren’t many members at the salon, so I’m sure they’ll quickly figure out who you are. If so, I think it would be better to ask the salon staff directly and honestly. Also, isn’t this the second time you’ve asked a similar question? Sorry if I’m remembering incorrectly. Marika