Have you ever liked a girl so much that you wanted her to become your girlfriend?
And if so, how did you handle it?
In the past, I had an affair, fell genuinely in love, and suffered serious emotional damage when we broke up.
To avoid going through that again, I joined this wonderful organization called a dating club.
Using money as the medium, I’ve dated several women and been able to have all kinds of experiences.
However, I’ve gradually started developing feelings for someone I’ve been seeing for the past three years.
I feel that experiences like this are also unique to dating clubs, so I wanted to ask how everyone else handles them.
I’m in Seattle.
I think that’s perfectly fine. I also like people who’ve been doing this for over a year, and they’re the kind of people I’d be willing to date.
In the first place, I only make offers to a select few—people I’d even consider marrying.
That said, I know I’d definitely cheat if I got married, so I’m not getting married.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
I want every woman I’m seeing to become my girlfriend. I think the women who find that off-putting are probably the ones who end up distancing themselves.
I believe I’m happier when I choose to see someone because I have feelings for her. I can’t control whether she’ll develop feelings for me, but I’m free to have feelings for her. It’s natural: what we’re free to choose is enjoyable, and what we can’t control causes worry. Feeling troubled because you’ve fallen for a woman is such an unhappy thing.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male club member.
Are you still young?
Why not venture out in search of an ordinary relationship outside the club?
Compared with the club, it may involve a hundred or even a thousand times more hardship, twists, and turns—but just like winning or succeeding in sports or work, the fulfillment you feel when you finally achieve it is incomparable.
Also, at the club, it should be easy to find someone willing to double as your lover, so why not talk to her about it?
That said, once you’ve met through the club, it’s a sad fate: she can’t truly become your partner, and it isn’t real love. But miracles do exist in this world.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Nice to meet you, Konbini. It’s funny how much more familiar you suddenly feel once you introduce yourself.
I like all the women I’ve continued seeing enough that I’d want to make them my girlfriends. But isn’t the main difference between a girlfriend and a mistress simply whether or not she receives an allowance?
Most women who sign up with a dating club do so because they need an allowance badly enough to put their profiles out there for complete strangers to see and wait for offers. If a woman I’ve come to like is struggling so much that she has to register with a dating club, I think it would be awful not to give her an allowance. Once we develop feelings for someone, if she’s willing to devote herself to us, isn’t it only natural for us male members to support her so she doesn’t have to struggle?
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
Ah, I know exactly how you feel. I really do.
There’s no solution, honestly. We can’t help ending up this way. In the end, we’re the ones seeking it.
Let’s agonize over it together, lol.
If you get rejected, have a drink.
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