Any recommendations for breaking out of a rut?

I’m Kazu, a male member. It’s often misunderstood, but just because you go to a happening bar doesn’t mean something has to happen. In fact, I think most happening bars are places where anything happening is actually pretty rare. Also, few men will approach a woman—the person asking the question—directly. If someone does, I think it would be fine to have your papa (a male supporter) firmly tell him, “Wouldn’t it be proper to greet the person who brought her here first?” Women are usually treated like VIPs in happening bars, and men who bring women with them are almost always regarded with a certain amount of respect. Going on an adult field trip with your papa (a male supporter) could be worth trying. If you’re worried, you could also have your papa go alone first to check the place out. Personally, I’m fond of garters, so I have women wear the garters or lingerie I like. I’d feel hesitant about teasing a woman while she’s wearing her own lingerie, but if I gave it to her with that understanding, I wouldn’t feel as bad about handling it roughly. Looking through online catalogs together and choosing lingerie to my taste can actually be quite fun.

It’s Joe. Reading between the lines, I could picture the relationship between you and your partner, and it made me happy too. You’ve built something truly wonderful together. That’s fantastic. Now, as for breaking out of your routine: I understand you’ve already tried traveling, but personally, I think changing up the way you get around can make the experience much more exciting. Some things Joe has tried include: - Traveling in a camper van - A traditional tatami-style train - An all-Green Car train - A sleeper train - Hiking across a mountainous region (two nights and three days—was I crazy?) Joe used to be a serious train enthusiast, so please forgive the railway-heavy suggestions. Oh, and Kyoto’s Umekoji Railway Museum is highly recommended! It’s crowded with families on weekends, so if you’re planning to fool around, go on a weekday（笑） When you travel, I also highly recommend simply walking as much as possible. A change of scenery can lift your mood, and you may discover new charms in your partner. In any case, why not plan another trip together, exchanging ideas as you go? A relatively easy option might be taking the Saphir Odoriko, which is entirely Green Car, toward Ito in Izu. The Saphir has private compartments, but I recommend the Premium Green seats. The chairs can rotate in some pretty unusual directions（笑） Looking for something more direct? How about sex while being watched by other people? That can get boring if you do it repeatedly, but I think it’s not a bad idea to try once. The question is who would be watching, of course, but there are sites for that kind of thing. If you’d like, ask Joe through Maezawa-san—I’ll discreetly tell you where to look（笑） In any case, I hope your relationship continues to be fulfilling.

Seattle, haha. It’s pretty difficult, isn’t it? When it goes on for several years, you start to feel like a married couple who’ve been together forever, and even though we’re lovers, we’ve ended up in a sexless relationship. It’s comfortable, though. Other than trying something new in bed, I can’t seem to break out of the rut. At this point, it feels a little embarrassing to ask what kind of things they’d like to try. But nothing will change if you do nothing, so try watching TV, movies, or manga together, and if there’s a good scene, imitate it. That can be a small catalyst. P.S. The Tenga SVR is convenient and inexpensive. A long time ago, I had sex with a girlfriend around my age while two 19-year-olds I’d hired from a masturbation club watched, filmed, and provided live commentary. “Wow, it’s really going in deep.” “Does it feel good?” “Being watched by young girls—you two are such perverted spouses♪” (They called us a married couple.) “I’ve never seen one this close before.” They gave us surprisingly enthusiastic commentary, and it was quite a lot of fun.