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I’m Kazu, a male member. I’d never really thought about it, but I tried to remember. I like cowgirl, but it seems tiring for women, so partway through we switch to either from behind or missionary. That’s about it. If I keep changing positions, I feel like they might think I’m some restless old guy.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. It may be presumptuous of me to offer my opinion when I’m still a beginner when it comes to sex, but I’m almost always a missionary-position-only kind of guy. I’m also curious to hear what the women have to say in response to this question. One thing I can say is that, even with someone like me, there are women I’ve continued seeing for a second and third time. From foreplay until the post-orgasm downtime is over, it lasts just under two hours, which I think is fairly long, but I’ve never felt that they were particularly unhappy about it. We enjoy ourselves, taking turns giving and receiving pleasure. I’m not sure positions are really that important. I’ll accommodate her when she asks me to try something—though when one woman suggested the standing carry position, it was so exhausting that I couldn’t last even a minute and had to ask her to let me off the hook (lol). Other than women who are highly experienced pros, I think creating an atmosphere that encourages a woman to be proactive is important. For example, when a man is pleasuring a woman, his motivation would probably be different if she showed no reaction compared with if she writhed and moaned. I think women feel the same way. Sex is a form of communication, so everyone is different, and it also depends on the person you’re with. I don’t think there’s any one “right answer.” Rather, as two people continue becoming intimate a second and third time, they gradually discover what works for the two of them.

I’m Marika, a female member. Even from the very first time, I’d be happy to if he said, “Come on top.” I think it’s fine as long as he guides me into it naturally. But if he goes at me for a while and then lies there sprawled out like, “Okay, your turn now,” I’m like, “Huh?”

I’m Sakurai from the staff. I can’t speak for all women involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but speaking as a woman, I can’t be very proactive from the first meeting... When it’s essentially “introductory sex” before I know the other person’s preferences or whether we’re compatible, I tend to hold back and see how things go. If I don’t think, “I’d like to do this again,” then there won’t be any getting more intimate afterward, so the first time is about checking our compatibility with the standard positions. Even with the usual positions, if the lead naturally shifts from the man on top, to the woman on top, and back again, it feels like you could try several variations. A woman who doesn’t want to move much may simply not have discovered how enjoyable it can be yet—or she may be thinking, “I wonder when this will be over...” When a guy suggests rear-entry right from the first time, I’m honestly impressed and think, “Now you get it!” (That’s just my very personal opinion.)

I’m Hikōki, a male member looking for sex that feels loving. Honestly, I’m envious of anyone who can keep going through so many positions! (Speaking as someone who’s pretty inexperienced…) I don’t think there’s any need to switch things up that much on the first day. More than that, I feel what matters is the sense of connection with your partner, figuring out your compatibility, and finding ways for both her and yourself to feel satisfied. I’m desperately trying—no, that’s not quite right—aiming to make the final push count, so I don’t get criticized at the end. As her excitement builds, I aim for such a strong sense of unity and loving excitement that I’m close to climaxing too, even without penetration. (With someone I don’t feel any love or connection with, I just get it over with quickly…) What matters to me is how far we can climb before that final push, and how deeply we can continue to savor the afterglow once we’ve reached the top. But more important than anything is whether we can keep seeing each other, continue enjoying sex, bring out more pleasure in each other, and support one another. That kind of compatibility is essential. When things continue for a long time, affection naturally grows. As you get to know each other better, you can experience deeper satisfaction, comfort, and fulfillment. It’s not just about whether your physical compatibility is good or bad. What really matters is whether you care enough about each other to want the other person to feel satisfied, and whether you have that kind of considerate compatibility. If you do, then even if your physical compatibility isn’t perfect, meeting up and being intimate won’t feel like a burden. You can both make an effort, talk things through, and enjoy spending time together. I think you’ll feel happy at the same time. I hope everyone can enjoy spending time with someone who genuinely cares about them, and whom they genuinely care about in return.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I remember a scene in the manga *Futari Ecchi* saying that constantly changing positions isn’t ideal for women because their pleasure gets reset each time, and I still believe that. I think it was in one of the earlier volumes. So I don’t change positions that often. That said, staying in the same position for too long can get physically tiring, so I try to be considerate about that.