About the allowance for an all-day date.

I’m Gaku, a male member. When I do a full-day “dinner only” date, it’s usually something like having lunch, going to a movie, art museum, or aquarium, and saying goodbye in the evening. Another pattern is having dinner, drinks at a bar, and then parting ways. These dates usually last around four to six hours, with an allowance of about ¥20,000–¥30,000. For something a little different, we might work out together at the gym, go to a spa, have a teppanyaki meal to replenish our protein, and then head off to work. The allowance was ¥10,000 for that. I think any arrangement is fine as long as she isn’t dissatisfied and we’re both happy with it. But that’s the difficult part, isn’t it? I guess the only thing to do is ask her. Once we’ve gotten closer and the relationship has progressed, I’m the type who can still enjoy spending time together even without sex.

I’m Flagmaker, a columnist. Since this is an all-day date, and assuming the woman in question is someone the poster likes, personally, I think giving her 1 would be a bit unfair. When I used to go on multiple dates with women in Type B arrangements, I gave 1 for dinner only. If we went somewhere afterward, like a second bar or karaoke, I gave 2 in total. I’ve never had a pay-per-meeting date last longer than that. But if it were me, I’d give 2 for up to six hours, and 3 for anything longer. **Conclusion** If she’s someone you like, it’s generally safer to offer a more generous allowance. Some women may feel it’s too much and say, “I can’t accept this.” Others may accept the allowance but show more gratitude than usual or try to return the favor in some way another time. That said, if she simply accepts an allowance I offered to show off as though it were a given, I’d find that a little disappointing, haha.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. It’s wonderful that you’re thinking about the woman’s feelings. That said, I think what amount is appropriate depends on how close you are—in other words, the nature of your relationship. If you haven’t built much of a relationship yet, or if she’s dating with a mindset that’s about 99% focused on the money, you probably need to calculate it by the hour. In other words, I think you’d need to offer a fairly substantial amount. In the app world, there seem to be women who want 5,000 yen per hour for dinner only (no intimacy). I don’t know whether men actually pay that much, but I suppose that’s the amount they would like. If you think of one full day as about 12 hours, that would be: 5,000 yen × 12 hours = 60,000 yen. However, if you’re already in a very loving relationship, I think the usual amount should be fine—though I don’t know what that normally is; perhaps around 10,000 yen? The best thing would be to ask her how much she feels would be appropriate. She may find it difficult to answer, and if she says, “I’ll leave it up to you,” that makes things even more difficult. But that might be a good opportunity to show some generosity.

I’m a male member, “Kamihikōki.” Hmm… There doesn’t seem to be much of an upper limit, starting from ¥10,000… Basically, whether it’s short or long—even if we spend the whole day together—the allowance is pretty much the same. Rather than keeping the entire day open, I prefer meeting at lunchtime and then just letting things flow, staying together because I want to—not because the allowance increases.