I’m a female member, and I have a question about being late or canceling. Sorry if this has already been asked.

I’m Marika, a female member. In short, if such strict rules are being introduced for female members, it means there must be that many last-minute cancellations. There are unavoidable reasons, such as the flu, COVID these days, a death in the family, or a traffic accident. Unfortunately, though, some people will use one of those reasons as an excuse to cancel at the last minute if they know it will be accepted. It’s just like schools with poor student conduct introducing stricter rules. If people like that hadn’t existed in the first place, such rules probably wouldn’t have been necessary. And even when someone gives the staff a reason for canceling by phone or LINE, it’s difficult for them to tell whether it’s true or not. In that case, I suppose the only option is to lower everyone’s rating across the board (meaning fewer stars, right?). It may depend somewhat on the woman’s track record and credibility, as well as the discretion of the staff member handling the case. But basically, I think you should expect your rating to be lowered—or, if it’s your first time, to be removed from the club.

Maezawa from the Business Planning Office here as well. > Interviews and so on The interview takes place before joining, so the person isn’t a member yet. Therefore, there’s no rating to lower. That said, if someone cancels twice and then shows up for their interview on the third attempt, the interview may be handled more strictly. One cancellation probably won’t have much impact. > Being late, canceling at the last minute, or failing to show up for a setting can lower your rating, and in some cases lead to immediate termination of membership. If you’re late: It will be noted in the comments, something like, “Was late in [month].” However, if you’re only a little late, the man may not even submit feedback in the first place. In that case, the club won’t know about it and your rating won’t go down. If you’re late enough for the man to feel it was unacceptable, your rating will probably drop. As for whether you’ll lose stars, I think the reason and your past record are also taken into consideration. Last-minute cancellations: Canceling on the day of or the day before the date will result in immediate termination if it’s your first offer. Since there’s no track record, we can’t tell whether the reason is genuine. For second and subsequent offers, the fact that you successfully went on the first date makes it more likely that there was a genuinely serious reason. If the reason seems legitimate, your rating will simply go down rather than you being immediately terminated. If the reason seems made up, however, your membership will be terminated. For example, if a woman who has been on several dates cancels because her mother has collapsed, her past record makes it likely that the reason is genuine. Her rating will still go down, but she won’t be immediately terminated. Failing to show up: Whether or not you have a track record, not appearing at the meeting place without contacting anyone will probably result in immediate termination. Incidentally, if you request a schedule change more than a week in advance, your rating generally won’t go down. However, since your past record and other factors are taken into consideration, you should assume that a rating reduction is still possible.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. It’s pretty common for a woman’s date to be changed at the last minute, so as long as you communicate properly, I don’t think the man will mind at all. However, if you don’t show up without notice or only contact him afterward, you’ll probably be immediately expelled from the club—even if the man himself isn’t particularly bothered. I’ve been stood up once before. The man said he just figured he’d gotten some free time, but the club contacted him right away and told him they had forcibly terminated her membership. Based on your question, I think you’ll be fine as long as you don’t stand him up. P.S. Incidentally, a man’s sense of “one or two hours before” is roughly equivalent to a woman’s sense of “two or three days before.” So even if you tell him three or four hours in advance, he’ll generally take it as plenty of notice. P.P.S. As for a woman’s track record, with new women joining one after another like this, I doubt it will be taken into consideration at all. The club will probably simply assume that if it happened once, it could happen again, and immediately terminate her membership. (Of course, this is assuming it’s something serious enough that the club staff apologize profusely to the man… though they really don’t need to apologize that much. The man is probably just thinking, “Lucky me—I didn’t have to meet someone like that,” and moving on to his next plans once the time has passed.)