Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> Is it common for an offer to be canceled after the date has been set?
It hardly ever happens.
Men also make offers only for dates they’re certain they can keep.
Unless something truly unexpected comes up, cancellations don’t happen. That said, on rare occasions—about once a month out of all dates, so it really is quite rare—an unavoidable work commitment may come up and the date has to be canceled.
Even then, since the man made the offer because he wants to meet the woman, he’s more likely to suggest changing the date than canceling altogether.
If the date is canceled and no new offer comes afterward, it’s highly likely that something the man dislikes has come to light in the woman’s profile.
For example, a date may be canceled if it’s discovered that she has appeared in AV, worked in the nightlife industry, or worked in adult entertainment. This varies from man to man, though, and some men may not mind at all.
Sometimes a date is canceled simply because it turns out the woman has children—for example, because he wouldn’t be able to travel with her if she has a young child.
Of course, in most cases, this information is written in the profile from the start. However, it may come to light through feedback from a man after a date, even though it wasn’t listed.
When that happens, our staff inform the man who made the offer. If we knew and failed to tell him, it would damage the trust between us going forward.
Come to think of it, there was a woman recently whose profile said she lived in Tokyo, but she had moved to another prefecture to escape COVID.
After she told our staff about it following the offer, we said we would let the man know. She then asked us not to tell him, but we couldn’t keep it from him. Once we told him, the date was canceled.
Naturally, she was angry, but Universe places a high value on trust, so we had to inform him.
After that, she kept sending messages along the lines of:
“I didn’t receive my allowance because the date was canceled. It’s the club’s fault. I’ll get a lawyer and sue you. Pay me.”
As a result, she was forcibly banned.
I understand how she felt, but if she had managed to hold back, I think she probably would have received another offer. It’s not easy, though.
Normally, I might have said, “Isn’t forcibly banning her going too far?” and tried to intervene.
But then I saw her say, “I could have received a lot because this man was a high-spec match—tall and with a black card.”
I thought, “That way of thinking is a bit…” and decided that the forced ban was probably unavoidable, so I stopped getting involved.
Still, even though her comments made it sound like it was all about the money, I found myself thinking, “So his height mattered too?” (laughs)
If she had complained, “I wanted to meet someone tall. Didn’t you know I liked tall men?” I would have thought, “Fair enough,” and probably tried to help her out.
But there’s really no point in complaining, so basically, it’s better to calmly write only the facts.
If you want to complain, please phrase it as a question and submit it to the question box.
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I’m Gaku, a male member.
I’m a traveling papa (male supporter), so most of my arrangements are long-distance and involve meeting once a month. I’ve had an offer through Universe canceled on me, but I’ve never been the one to cancel.
That said, I have canceled since entering into an arrangement with someone. This time, flights were grounded because of COVID, so I couldn’t go. Unfortunately, that became the initial reason one of my relationships ended.
When it’s long-distance, various obstacles inevitably come up. Traveling by train is fine if it’s around two hours, but anything beyond that starts to get pretty difficult.
I used to be satisfied with a monthly arrangement, but when I think about how situations like this could continue for a while—and that we might not be able to see each other at all for the foreseeable future—
I’ve started to envy people who can meet someone nearby, continue seeing them even during COVID by keeping it discreet, and manage to meet as often as once a week.
I’m “Paper Airplane,” a male member.
I’ve never canceled an offer, and I don’t plan to start.
Lately, I’ve become interested in long-distance arrangements. A monthly arrangement like that sounds enjoyable too.
I once connected online with someone who lived far away, worked out the terms, and messaged frequently on LINE while looking forward to it. But in the end… it turned out to be a complete failure.
