I’m Meg, a female member.
> When a man ends things in bed without being able to get in the mood
I can’t help but feel terribly sorry.
In my mind, it’s just:
- Sorry I’m so flat-chested.
- Sorry I’m in my late thirties to early forties.
- Sorry I don’t have any technique.
I’m caught in a whirlwind of apologies, along with a complicated mix of gratitude and appreciation that you would be intimate with someone like me.
Oh, and by the way, I can’t drink alcohol. I’m sorry I can’t even keep you company over drinks.
I’m a male member.
As Jamu-san said, “If you chase two rabbits, you’ll catch neither.”
There’s no way God would give you both.
As Mac-san wrote, I think it’s better to have sex first, then enjoy drinks and dinner.
If you’re going to drink, I think the best part is enjoying the atmosphere that comes with drinking.
Personally, though, I can’t really enjoy that atmosphere.
As far as I’m concerned, “A man who drinks shouldn’t talk about sex.”
That alone would sound cold, though, so to answer your question:
When a woman likes alcohol, I usually let her be the only one drinking so she can relax and feel good. Sometimes we have dinner first, and other times we go straight to a hotel.
Since you want to enjoy the atmosphere of drinking, I think there’s nothing wrong with ending the evening with dinner only, or calling it an early night if you start losing your energy—as long as she receives her allowance.
Presumably, losing your energy means that you aren’t getting very aroused because she isn’t feeling much either. I’d advise against forcing yourself to keep going until you finish.
Also, medication doesn’t work well on a full stomach, so after dinner, you could have dessert or karaoke, wait about two hours after the meal, and then take it. It should start working within about 30 minutes, so you’d probably still have time even if you took it after arriving at the hotel.
Finally, I really don’t think you can put much effort into caressing someone when you’re feeling pleasantly relaxed from drinking and can’t fully control yourself. That may be why you only manage to get aroused through the woman’s caresses.
Ideally, though, you should be able to get aroused from the situation itself, with little or no caressing from her. That’s why gentle, caring caresses for the woman are so important.
Rather than focusing on the act itself, I suggest aiming for a time when you can fully savor the afterglow.
P.S. Making a woman climax doesn’t necessarily require ejaculation or penetration, so you may find it easier to relax if you don’t worry about getting fully aroused. Ejaculation only lasts a moment, after all. Rather than fixating on such a small detail, try viewing sex as something deeply layered that a woman can enjoy, and explore how to make that possible.
