A good relationship probably means seeing each other at least twice a month. Since we're both busy and need to make time for our personal lives too, would two or three times a month be about right?
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If you only meet once a month, missing even one meeting means a long gap between dates, so I feel like the relationship could easily fade away naturally. What do you think?
Does anyone here see their papa only once every two months or just occasionally? Honestly, wouldn’t it be hard to really open up to each other? I’d probably feel nervous every time, and it doesn’t seem like the relationship would last very long.
For example, even if you used to meet someone regularly and get along well, it would be difficult to suddenly go to a hotel with them after not seeing each other for three months, right?
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think the answer to this question depends on each person’s approach to dating.
Rather than deciding which option is better, it may be best to see it simply as a matter of how you choose to pursue the relationship.
If you want to date several people at the same time, there may be longer gaps between meetings. If you’re happy with just a few people, you’ll probably meet more often.
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At dating clubs, you’ll find men and women with all kinds of perspectives, each participating according to their own values.
So I think it’s difficult to say definitively how often it’s appropriate to meet.
That said, if we assume you’re looking for a relationship close to (pseudo-)romance, then meeting just once a month or once every two months probably wouldn’t allow the relationship to deepen.
In my experience, meeting around three times a month—with intimacy once or twice—felt like the most natural way to grow close. It’s also important how much you can stay in touch via LINE or other apps between meetings.
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I’m a male member, BB7.
No matter how many times I meet some women, I still feel nervous around them—or we just never really click.
On the other hand, there are women I somehow feel comfortable with even if we don’t meet once a month. Some I see only once every six months or once a year, and it doesn’t feel awkward at all.
Meeting after three months and suddenly heading to a hotel? That’s like “Ikinari Steak” (“steak right away”). Well, if we’re both okay with it, I suppose that works too.
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I’m a confused man in my 60s.
I usually meet my regular companion once a month, but lately our schedules often don’t line up, so it’s more like once every two or three months.
The woman I met the other day was someone I hadn’t seen in four months because we kept postponing our plans.
I apologized, saying, “I’m sorry I’m such an unreliable papa (a male supporter), and all I can offer is a small pay-per-meeting allowance...” But she said, “I’m just happy we got to meet...” (^_^;)
We have so much to talk about that there’s no time to feel nervous... lol
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I’m Saito♪, a column writer.
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In my case, I actually feel the exact opposite—I think meeting once every two months might be better.
How many experienced women are there who can fill an hour every two weeks with truly meaningful conversation? It’s surprisingly rare to find conversation worth a man’s hourly rate. (Even the Ginza clubs have become rather shallow lately, and it’s hard to have a real conversation.)
When two months pass, there’s naturally a wealth of changes and new topics to talk about.
In my case, perhaps I’m paying extra for that kind of information as well.
If I were going to meet the same person every two weeks, I’d rather learn something from four different women over the course of two months and give something back to each of them. At least, that’s how I see a good relationship.
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