I’m Saito, the columnist♪
Like Papuwa, I joined a dating club so I wouldn’t go around causing trouble for people in my everyday life. Haha.
Globally speaking, there are plenty of outlets for men’s sexuality and romantic needs, but I can’t really say Japan has a broad enough support system for that.
(There are some, of course—it’s just a world where everything exists in name only.)
People from overseas are often surprised that you can’t take a woman home from a club.
“Being a gentleman” and “making an effort” aren’t things you should claim about yourself, so I’ve never really given them any thought.
I’m not Mac-san, but I thought I’d answer anyway♪
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Apparently, a gentleman is:
- A man of high social standing
- A refined and courteous man
So, in a sense, all male members can be considered gentlemen—as long as they have the financial means to pay membership fees and allowances, and are courteous enough to pass the club’s interview.
Being “gentlemanly” apparently means:
- Behaving courteously and respectfully toward others, as a gentleman should
So if you respect the woman you’re with, you can be considered a gentleman.
The word “gentleman” itself doesn’t seem to have much to do with social morality or ethics, so there’s probably no need to worry, “Does using a club mean I’m not a gentleman?”
If you have status and money, respect the women you meet, and don’t do anything they dislike, you should be able to proudly call yourself a gentleman.
It probably gets confusing because people lump morality and ethics into the definition as well.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
They’re completely unrelated.
To enjoy a club, you have to act like a gentleman—the generous, kind of man women are looking for.
I think it’s simply easier to picture and describe men who join these clubs as “gentlemen.”
In reality, joining a club means being a man or woman willing to break away from the norm, so you could even say it’s the complete opposite of being a gentleman.
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