The man I’m in a monthly arrangement with insists that I must never get a boyfriend or see any other papas. He also restricts me from attending small company drinking gatherings, going out with male friends, going to ai-seki bars or group dates, and visiting drinking spots where there are lots of men.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > Personally, being controlled is exhausting, so I’m thinking of having an honest talk with him. I don’t think talking to him will change anything. A man who’s okay with not controlling you won’t try to control you in the first place. A man who wants to control you probably won’t be satisfied unless he does, so he’ll likely come up with all sorts of reasons to justify it. If he finds he can’t control you, he may look for another woman. In fact, I suspect he may already be seeing other women. Has he not withdrawn from the dating club? If he has withdrawn, you could rejoin the club without him finding out. But if he hasn’t, I think he’d notice as soon as you rejoined. It seems that you’re not currently on equal footing, so I think you should first work on getting yourselves onto an equal footing. If you were equals, you could negotiate by saying, “If you try to control me, I’ll break up with you.” And if you dated multiple men, you might meet someone even better. You might even find someone to marry.

I’m Flagmaker, a columnist. If you’re in a position where you have to rely on someone to get by, but you don’t want to depend on or be controlled by your papa (a male supporter), then quietly focus on finding a spouse—and get married as soon as possible. If you miss the right time to get married, all the good men will be taken. I don’t think being completely honest with a man who’s trying to control you will do you any good. Everyone has good and bad sides. Morally speaking, people say, “Focus on the good in others,” but— It may not be the best way to think, but in my personal life, I always judge people based on their “bad side.” You can hide your true nature and put on a good front when showing your good side, but your true character comes out in those unpleasant moments that slip through. That’s why I don’t have many friends, lol.

This is Saito, a column writer ♪ First of all, the biggest problem is that you’ve gotten used to being supported, which is the worst place to be. If you don’t grow or move on to the next stage while receiving support, you’ll end up living a life like the person asking this question—one that depends on that support. Please get out of a life where you can’t survive without being supported as soon as possible. At the same time, I think it’s fine to keep pursuing marriage prospects while pretending nothing is going on. Most of the time, people can’t tell when women are lying.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. Men tend to be possessive, so he probably wants you all to himself. However, you have to decide what you want to do going forward. I’m sure you’re hesitant, but try taking the plunge and having an honest discussion with him... I don’t think he’ll cut you off, but if he does, you can figure out what to do then.