What would you do if a man you don’t click with, who lacks basic cleanliness and is also a complete turnoff, asked to see you again? Would you turn him down?

Column writer here, Seattle. I’m sorry on behalf of our male members—some of them are truly embarrassing. When a man says he doesn’t want to use contraception, is he basically telling you to take the pill? It’s a matter of supply and demand, so perhaps quote an amount that would still make you want to meet him despite that. If he’s a stingy guy trying to keep costs as low as possible, he’ll probably turn you down. When he does, please point out what’s wrong with his behavior in terms even a kindergartener could understand—for the sake of the future.