I’m a 20-year-old woman who started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) last month.

I’m Saito, a column writer ♪ When it comes to sex, it’s simply a matter of whether he’s good or bad at it—so the only question is whether you can put up with it. Also, you’re better off avoiding men who try to reduce your allowance. That’s all. It’s a waste of time to even think about men who try to reduce your allowance (devalue you). P.S. Thank you, Date◎Yume, for mentioning my name.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. That’s a very good question. For concerns like yours, I can confidently say that this anonymous Q&A site is the best place to find a solution. First: > The second time hurt just as much, and I was bleeding as well. I felt that this was because Papa went too fast without considering whether my body was ready (though I don’t actually know—maybe that’s just how it is), and honestly, it made me really not want to do it anymore. As for this, I believe Mac, who also answers questions here, would be the best person to help you. I’m sure he would respond appropriately to your condition and concerns. However, if you contact him, things will probably get physical right away, so you’ll need to be prepared（笑） Next: > Despite him telling me that he liked me, I was really shocked when he reduced my allowance. If this catches Mr. Saito’s or the “Legendary Papa-Katsu Gentleman’s” attention, I’m sure your shock will become a thing of the past. Lastly, I can help too, although I’ll do my best if you don’t set your expectations too high. I’m sure Universe would take care of something like that as part of their service... If there’s no such service, and you join, it would directly affect the company’s performance, so I think their attitude would change 180 degrees and they’d become extremely proactive. I don’t know where you live, but if you’re looking to do something about this, I think it might be worth consulting Mr. Maezawa first. Mac, Mr. Saito, and the “Legendary Papa-Katsu Gentleman”—I borrowed your names without permission. Sorry.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > However, the second time was just as painful, and I was bleeding too. I’m only guessing, but because you were in so much pain the first time, he may have stopped before fully going through. That’s probably why you bled again the second time. If anything, it may be because things weren’t properly completed the first time, so the second time was painful as well. > Honestly, I’ve started to really dislike doing it. There are ways to avoid causing pain from the very first time, but I think that requires a considerable level of experience. Based on what you’ve described, it seems like from the third time onward, you may only experience a little pain. However, I think a slight amount of pain may continue for the first few months. > Even though he says he likes me, I was really shocked that he reduced my allowance. It’s actually the opposite. Since it was your first time, I think he gave you a congratulatory bonus. If the allowance for the first time wasn’t particularly substantial, then I think you should have looked for someone more generous. The amount you think was a reduction is probably what he considers his normal rate. > What do you think would be the right way for me to handle this? Why not try negotiating for an increase? If he refuses to change the reduced amount and you’re personally okay with that, then I think it’s fine to continue seeing him. It seems there may be something between you that’s worth more than the money. If you’re not satisfied with the current amount, you could say: “I really need my allowance to be this amount. If that’s difficult, then I won’t be able to see you anymore.” It would be perfectly fine to end things that way. You may also have the chance to meet an even better man. That said, I think you should continue seeing him until you find someone new. Once you do, you can negotiate an increase with him, and if he refuses, start seeing the new man instead. If he agrees to increase it, then you could continue seeing both men at the same time.