There was a female university student who had only revealed her real name to me. On a whim, I searched for her, and her photo came up. I even found out which university she attends. In other words, her identity has been exposed.

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ I’ve had a similar experience too. lol And I’m the same dating type B as you, the person asking the question. What is it, I wonder? I know full well that he could just go to other women, but I still get irritated whenever I see his Instagram and so on. I think there are roughly two types of women who join dating clubs: those who join with their eyes open, and those who are approached by scouts, sold some vague fantasy, and pushed into joining. The reason I can’t take action like you is that I’d be in trouble if my identity were exposed. So even though I’ve suffered a lot of losses—perhaps because they’re taking advantage of my situation—I’ve accepted them as the price of learning and endured it. *sigh* The incident involving Morita from Sophia University also ended with both sides going down because of the college student’s naivety: “I told on him, and he came after me.” There are still far more women than you might think who believe they can easily “pull” six-figure amounts from male members. Since you wrote this in the question box, I imagine part of you may simply want someone to vent to. I’d love to chat about it over drinks at DRC sometime.

I’m BB7, a male member. There are probably around 〇〇% of women at the club who are unreliable or even dishonest. I understand how you feel, but getting involved with women like that is just a waste of time and energy. Move on to someone else. Why not report what happened to the club? Her rating might be lowered, or she could receive negative comments and get fewer offers.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > She wronged me, and when I called her out on it a little, she stopped responding. I’m pretty irritated that she did something deceptive and then cut off contact. I don’t know the details, so my answer might be different if I knew exactly what happened. But judging from the way you describe it as “wronging” you and “deceptive,” I get the impression that even you don’t consider it outright fraud. So was it something like this? She said she was having financial difficulties and wanted a little extra, or that next time could be free. You gave her a slightly higher allowance, but then she canceled your next date. If that’s what happened, it’s probably best to consider it a valuable learning experience. From her perspective, she may not have felt that she deceived you at all—she may simply have felt that the allowance was too low, negotiated, and received a more reasonable amount. > What does everyone think about reporting the facts to her university, purely as a matter of fact? I don’t think there’s any benefit to you in doing that. Basically, I believe the proper course is to deal directly with the other person. If you know enough about her, identify her address and other details, consult a lawyer, and send her a formal certified letter. If you feel that the cost isn’t worth it, I think you should let it go. It would be more worthwhile to find someone new and enjoy your time together. I recommend focusing on making the most of your valuable time.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. Since this involves a college student, I imagine the university would likely treat it as a private matter between individuals rather than an issue concerning the university itself. I’m not sure whether it falls under student guidance or disciplinary matters. If the club, you, or perhaps the student cannot provide evidence establishing a violation of the law, it may simply end with, “Yes, yes, we understand. Thank you for your time.” If it was fraud, you may want to file a report with the police.

In My 30s, New Member I think you’re more mature than she is, so you should stop yourself from doing something so childish. After all, we men who get involved with dating clubs can generally be said to be doing something questionable too. Besides, women can be scary. They lie and can be very calculating—that’s just common sense to me. Since you were investing with some kind of return or expectation in mind, I think you have to take responsibility if it didn’t work out. All you can do is be more careful going forward so you don’t repeat the same mistake.