Have any men ever been turned down for a monthly arrangement, or any female members turned one down? I’d appreciate hearing the reasons and what they really meant, for reference.

I’m Saito, a column writer♪ This is an old story now, but the simple reason was that I got bored. There were women who met me with the mindset that they were guaranteed to receive an allowance. Then there were pay-per-meeting women who tried to make each encounter special, thinking, “I want to create a memorable time so he’ll want to see me again.” I came to prefer the latter. With a monthly arrangement, it eventually became a hassle to even meet—I would just transfer the money. If she was someone I didn’t want to see even after paying her, I figured I might as well give it to a woman who was making an effort, so I ended the monthly arrangements. Even with pay-per-meeting arrangements, I often send the allowance without meeting, so it still feels almost like a monthly arrangement.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I’ve never had a monthly arrangement, so I can’t speak from experience or say for sure what the reasons or true intentions are, but I do think these may be among the reasons someone would refuse one: > If I become dependent and get used to being spoiled, I’ll ultimately be unable to become independent and will fall into a downward spiral. > I don’t want this person to control me, and I don’t want to become that close to them. If you meet regularly on a pay-per-meeting basis, isn’t that not much different from a monthly arrangement?