I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
> When I imagine that she’s forcing herself to be intimate with other men in their late 40s or early 50s, in tears, just to receive an allowance that isn’t even a significant amount to me, I feel like I’m going to lose it.
Did she actually tell you that she’s “forcing herself to be intimate with men in their late 40s or early 50s”?
Or did you hear nothing of the sort and simply assume that’s what’s happening?
If it’s the former, then if you provide her with substantial support, she’ll probably stop seeing other men without you even having to ask.
(She wouldn’t need to keep seeing them against her will.)
It’s difficult to imagine that she’s forcing herself to be intimate with them in tears. So if it’s the latter, you may be overthinking things—or perhaps viewing the situation through a somewhat adolescent, overly dramatic lens.
> This is basically NTR, isn’t it?
I assume she’s neither your girlfriend nor your wife, so I don’t think this really qualifies as being cuckolded.
> I can’t sort out my feelings. Maybe I’m not suited for this kind of thing…
I think you’re simply not used to it yet. You’d probably be better off approaching these relationships as more of a transactional relationship.
Of course, if you’re able to genuinely win her over, she may develop serious feelings for you, and you might even become a couple or get married. But that’s only if she truly feels the same way.
Most women aren’t looking to get married. If you misunderstand that and pursue the relationship anyway, things can become very complicated. In the worst case, your feelings may grow stronger while you fail to notice how she feels, and you could end up becoming a stalker.
To avoid that, at this stage, I think you should make offers to many more women, meet plenty of women you’d actually like to see, and go on dates with a variety of people. That way, you can build up more experience.
> It would be nice if there were somewhere members could go for casual advice.
If you’re a Black-class member, you can consult with staff in person. Platinum-class members and above can also speak with staff by phone.
The service is primarily intended for advice about making offers, but I don’t think any staff member would be bothered if a topic like this came up.
If you’re concerned, ask for an experienced staff member. I’m sure they’ll listen and advise you thoughtfully.
If there seems to be a problem with how the staff handles things, please contact me, Maezawa, and I’ll look into it.
I’m Saito, a columnist ♪
I think this is something everyone goes through.
Rather than simply getting past it, I hear that many men keep insisting things like, “Don’t see any other men.”
Try thinking of it as training in self-development.
I think it’s best to get to know several people and spread things out.
It would be nice if there were roundtable discussions for male members as well. (For a fee.)
I’m a confused man in my 60s.
Oh dear, there seem to be more and more lost souls these days（笑）
Well, whether you’re in your 30s or a guy around 50, if you’re doing the same things with her, she’ll probably lump you all together as just another older guy. I think you’ll be happier if you don’t hold on to the illusion that you’re somehow different.
If you want to have her all to yourself that badly—and she really likes you—why not go on dates every two or three days, even if not every day?
I’ve had that kind of relationship myself, so I don’t think it’s impossible…
