I’m a female member, and I’d especially like to hear women’s opinions.
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From our very first meeting, I was approached by a wealthy man who seemed sincere and was a good fit in terms of age and looks. He casually gave me ¥300,000 at our first meeting and said he would also help cover necessary expenses, such as tuition, in addition to providing a sufficient allowance each time we met.
In return, he asked me to leave the club, delete my contact information for the male members I’ve met so far, and quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
He said he wants me to avoid spending my private time on anyone other than him, value the time I need to pursue my dreams, and live a respectable life.
What do you honestly think? He has provided his personal details and real name, so I feel he’s put himself in a position where he can’t do anything shady.
I know everyone is different, but I’d like to hear your opinions—what would you think or do in my situation?
I’m in my 60s and still trying to figure things out.
Something about this struck me as funny, so here’s an additional answer.
I have a feeling this question was written by a man—perhaps he’s thinking, “Maybe I’ll say this to a woman and see how she reacts.”
There are little things in the wording that make me feel a woman probably wouldn’t phrase it this way.
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I’m a confused woman in my 60s.
I agree with Mr. Maezawa’s opinion.
There’s a very real possibility that he’ll toss you aside once he gets bored. He could come up with any number of reasons…
Honestly, I can’t help laughing at the nerve of someone who wants you to be a convenient mistress while saying, “I want you to lead a respectable life.”
If I truly liked a woman and she had dreams of her own, I’d give her an allowance without asking for a relationship.
Please be careful!
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Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here.
> What do you honestly think?
If you feel the monthly allowance is enough for you, I think it’s worth considering.
Encouraging someone to leave the club violates the rules, so ideally, the man should be forcibly removed. However, since he’s telling her that she should be with him exclusively, if she also agrees to see only him, perhaps forced removal wouldn’t necessarily be an issue.
Putting that aside, he may actually be a good person, since both his wishes and hers are being met.
That said, I think there are risks involved as well.
He’s offering favorable terms because he likes you right now, but there’s also a possibility that the relationship could end six months from now.
No one can know what the future holds.
With that in mind, completely deleting your contact information for the male members you’ve met seems like a considerable risk.
You could back it up somehow and delete it from your phone, while keeping it possible to restore the contacts if necessary. That might be one option.
Of course, this would only be in case things ended with him. As long as the relationship continues, contacting other men would be disrespectful.
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