If we meet about twice a month and stay in touch every day, roughly how much would a monthly allowance be?

I’d say ¥200,000 or more, with no real upper limit. Anything less is likely to make the daily communication feel burdensome.

For a long-term arrangement, a monthly arrangement might be fine, but until you both feel comfortable, I think it’s better to stick with pay-per-meeting. Regardless of the going rate, if you’re in touch every day, you should go ahead and ask how much allowance you’d receive per meeting. Hope that helps.

In my case, my top girl is a perfect fit for those terms. We meet twice a month, and sometimes have an adult relationship, sometimes not. The monthly allowance is in the three-figure range. Since “three figures” could technically mean as little as 100 yen, work on your internet literacy.

The arrangement you’re asking about is essentially the same as the relationship we have now. That said, it isn’t a monthly arrangement—we meet on a pay-per-meeting basis, with the allowance adjusted so the monthly total stays the same. It’s also an exclusive one-on-one relationship for both of us（笑） In reality, though, I’m far from a handsome papa—I’m just an older guy with some gray hair, while she’s a young, beautiful, cute woman（笑） Anyway, I set the monthly total at roughly half the average take-home pay for a new university graduate in this area. It’s been nearly eight years now, and we’ll end our relationship next spring. We take it for granted now, but early on, she used to say that we were seeing each other at just the right intervals. Maybe she doesn’t have a boyfriend, maybe she chose not to have one, or maybe she simply couldn’t get one（笑）. Either way, we’ve developed a strong, deeply trusting bond—different from a typical boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

I don’t think there’s really a going rate for allowances. If I had to give an answer, the most common amount seems to be 50,000 yen per meeting, so twice a month might mean 100,000 yen. Personally, though, I don’t understand why someone would want a monthly arrangement when you’re only meeting twice a month. Based on my own experience, people—men and women alike—who ask for a monthly arrangement before you’ve even started seeing each other tend to be more trouble than they’re worth. What are they planning to do if they agree on a monthly arrangement, only to discover problems such as bad hygiene or incompatible sex? I’d really like to ask men who are so fond of monthly arrangements what they would do if, after agreeing on a monthly amount and paying that allowance, the Manchurian Incident happened. And if it were a woman, what would she do if, after agreeing to a monthly arrangement, they went to a room and the man took off his pants, only to reveal that he had an uncircumcised penis that looked like it probably wasn’t washed properly? I think people who insist on making a monthly arrangement from the start, without preparing for the possibility of some kind of problem arising, simply lack foresight.