A question about how often women should reach out between meetups.

> How often is it best for the woman to reach out? It depends on the person, so I think it’s a good idea to casually ask when you’re together. But if you message them about once a week, I don’t think they’ll find it too bothersome. > Do people who don’t like messaging still appreciate it when they receive messages? Whether they appreciate it or not is another matter, but if you message them around that often, I think few people would consider it a nuisance. It also seems more likely to lead to making plans for your next meeting. > I haven’t sent him anything at all. Could that cause him to fade out? When someone doesn’t reach out, you may start to wonder, “Maybe she isn’t that interested in me?” In that case, he might decide to meet someone else instead. So yes, there is a possibility he may fade out. Of course, there are also men who still want to meet because they find you attractive, even if you don’t contact them. It ultimately depends on the person.

It depends on the person, so I think it’s best to gauge their response and message accordingly. Speaking for myself, some women contact me every day, while others do so a few times a week. Most people probably adjust based on how the other person responds. At least for me, if a woman doesn’t reach out, it usually never leads to making plans to meet, and we simply lose touch.

In our case, we sometimes exchange two or three messages, but we do exchange messages every day. I’m a married 70-year-old grandpa, and we only meet twice a month, but it’s been nearly eight years since we started seeing each other（笑） I suppose it depends on the person you’re seeing, but exchanging messages every day can be nice too（笑） That said, I’m generally busy every day, so we usually stick to one exchange each day.

> I haven’t sent him anything at all. Could that be why he’s fading out? Yes. If the woman doesn’t reach out, there won’t be any further contact or meetings. If you’ve only been discussing dates, though, I think it’s probably fine if there’s no other communication in between. > How often should the woman message him? I think it’s best to message him whenever you naturally feel like it. The reason men don’t message first on LINE is to avoid the relationship becoming one-sided—since they’ve already chosen a woman they like at the offer stage—and to create a papa-katsu dynamic where the woman also wants to meet and stay in touch.