I was asked whether I have any experience working in the nightlife industry, and I answered honestly. Will that information be shown to male members? I’d prefer to keep it private—would it be okay to ask the staff not to display it?

What counts as “night work”? I’m not into soaplands or health clubs. If you used to work in them, that’s fine. Cabaret clubs and girls’ bars are fine too. Even if you try to hide it, I can usually tell somehow.

What counts as night work? Soaplands or health clubs are a no. If she used to work there, that’s okay. Cabaret clubs and girls’ bars are fine. Even if you try to hide it, I can somehow tell.

I think things will go more smoothly if you’re honest about working in the nightlife industry and focus on valuing the offers you receive. They might not find out if it’s just a one-time meeting, but if you meet several times, things are likely to stop adding up even if you keep it hidden, and there’s a good chance they’ll eventually figure it out. Especially with nightlife work, your available hours are often different from those of office workers or students, so they may be able to make an educated guess based on your schedule alone.

> Will it be visible to male members? It won’t be displayed, but if a man asks, I tell him. When a man asks, it usually means he’s unsure whether to make an offer, so naturally, the number of offers will decrease accordingly. However, if a woman is matched with a man who doesn’t want to date anyone with night-work experience, she’ll eventually mention it at some point, and things will end there anyway. With that in mind, I feel it’s better for both sides to know from the beginning so they can find a better match. I also don’t want to lose the trust of male members, so my policy is to answer honestly when asked. As for consideration for the women, the most we can do is not display it on the listings page. That way, it shouldn’t affect anyone who doesn’t mind. > I’d prefer to keep it hidden. Is it okay to tell the staff that? There’s no problem with telling them, but it can’t be kept hidden. Once you tell the staff, they’ll answer if a man asks. The staff can’t tell male members something they don’t know themselves. So, for example, if you’ve never told anyone about it, then no one except you would know. More specifically, if it’s not current work but something from your past, I don’t think there’s any way for us to know unless you tell us yourself. By the way, most men are fine with night work as long as it wasn’t work in the adult entertainment industry, so I think it depends on what kind of night work it was. Personally, I don’t really care about someone’s past, but some men don’t want to date anyone who has ever worked in the adult entertainment industry, even once.