Tips Jul 26, 2025 09:20

My papa has fallen seriously in love with me and is starting to act like a stalker. I’m scared.

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He gives me ¥150,000 a month, and I rent an apartment, paying the rent out of that allowance. He also covered all the initial costs, appliances, and everything else. Since renting the apartment, we’ve been meeting there. But on days when I cancel our plans, he’s started coming by to check on me. I haven’t given him a spare key, so whenever he comes by, he calls me—but it’s scary. If he’s paying the rent, do I just have to put up with this? We meet every week for ¥150,000 a month, and he expects an adult relationship even when I’m on my period. He also keeps me there for at least six hours every time. The other day, we had plans to go out for dinner after meeting at the apartment during the day. But I canceled because I have a child who gets lonely at night, so I couldn’t go out for dinner. After we parted ways during the day, he came back to the apartment that night. A friend happened to be visiting, and he got extremely angry when he saw the car, demanding to know who was there. It was terrifying. He also pressures me to message him every day, and if I don’t use even a single emoji, he makes sarcastic comments like, “You seem busy.” Honestly, it’s exhausting. If he’s paying for the apartment, is this something I just have to accept? He’s definitely a papa to avoid, right? For the record, he’s married. We’re supposed to meet again next week, and he said we should talk things over calmly then, but I’m scared to meet him alone in a confined space.
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🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
If you really can’t stand it, should you find another papa before ending things, get back the money for your security deposit, key money, and appliances, prepare to move, and then break up? That does sound pretty difficult, though.
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負け男
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
Am I right in assuming you’re a single mom? I guess it’s hard to cut things off because the money is important, right…? You’ll have to keep negotiating, but honestly, I don’t have any great advice. It’s easy to say, as if it were someone else’s problem, “You don’t have to keep seeing him if it’s too much.”
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