Some people say you should send a polite message when ending things, but is that really true?

Maezawa, answering as well. When someone suddenly becomes unreachable, you have no idea what happened. They might have been in a traffic accident, or collapsed at home. “Please just figure it out” may be easier for the person ending things, but the person on the receiving end has no idea what’s going on. Thinking about it that way, I feel it’s better to communicate things properly. For example, it’s common to thank someone when they give you a present. But taken to an extreme, that logic could mean saying, “You should know I’m happy to receive it without me having to thank you.” > When I end things, it’s because my anger has outweighed my gratitude by far. Not everyone is like that, but even so, I think it’s okay to tell them what made you angry—or, even if it didn’t go that far, what you didn’t like. And in situations like that, there’s naturally no gratitude left, so something along the lines of, “I’m ending things with you,” is perfectly fine. If possible, I also think it’s a good idea to explain why you’ve decided to end things.

Aizawa here—let me answer as well. As the male member mentioned, I think it’s better to reach out, even if the message isn’t perfectly worded!! > “You’re an adult, so please understand that no reply is your answer.” That may be one way to leave things unresolved, but from the other person’s perspective, couldn’t it come across as a rather self-serving assumption…? > When you politely say goodbye, they respond, “Why are we breaking up?!” If the other person thought things were going well, and you suddenly stopped responding, they might worry that you’d been in an accident or run into some kind of trouble, and contact you even more. Rather than having them keep contacting you when you want to end things, I think telling them that you want to bring it to a close will ultimately reduce stress for both of you, since it’s less likely to drag on afterward. “I don’t like them, so I’ll just ignore them!” Personally, I don’t think that’s a particularly good way to handle things as an adult. If someone behaved that way, I’d find it difficult to recommend them to male members in the future…

I’m a male member who’s been registered for two and a half years—a confused man in his 60s. I understand… situations like that do happen. Still, you don’t have to be so formal about it. Just send a message saying, “I’m ending things.” The circumstances may be a little different, but… The other day, I went on two dinner dates with a B-type woman, and we agreed to have an overnight date for the third. We even confirmed everything the night before, so I thought it was finally happening. But late that night—or rather, in the early hours of the day itself—she suddenly canceled, saying she still wasn’t ready. She wrote, “I fully understand that this has caused you trouble. You did nothing wrong, but I’m ending things. I’ll block you on LINE as well…” And just like that, with no further exchange, it was suddenly over between us. (^◇^;) That day, I told the staff at the branch what had happened and had them listen to me vent a little. Since I couldn’t contact her at all, though, I somehow felt strangely refreshed. It was the first time I’d ever been grateful for LINE’s blocking feature… lol Even her initial contact when the first meeting was arranged came from a withheld number… Wouldn’t it be possible to say goodbye cleanly, with no lingering complications?