I’m Saito, a columnist♪
When a woman says, “I’ll leave it up to you,” I can’t help but think she must be meeting some wonderful men—and I find that heartwarming.
Once you keep having bad experiences, though, it becomes difficult to say that.
I also really understood what Maezawa-san was saying about the Hazu Ryokan story. The employees would start wondering, “How much is he going to pay us?” and feel awkward, so the staff would need to be trained to respond with a smile and grace, even when the amount was low. I found myself wondering whether it was supposed to be some kind of employee-training exercise. Of course, it didn’t last.
I think your current situation is really good. I hope you continue to meet wonderful men who completely overwrite the previous ones. Haha.
Maezawa here.
I think it depends on the person, but if he’s a sincere man, he’ll probably think, “I can’t offer too little if she’s leaving it up to me,” and tend to offer a little more.
A while ago, there was a brief buzz about an inn (or hotel?) where guests decided the price themselves. Apparently, some people paid ¥80,000 for one night, even though the usual price was said to be around ¥10,000–¥20,000.
That said, it seems some people paid very little as well. I’d like to believe there aren’t men like that at Universe, but I think some people may still offer a low amount without considering the other person’s feelings.
On the other hand, letting the other person decide can also give you an idea of whether you’ll be able to continue seeing each other. If he’s the kind of man who can’t be considerate, you may end up feeling that it was a good thing not to continue seeing him, so I think this approach can work too.
There are many different ways to do it, so if you’re unsure, you could always try another approach. But if things have been fine this way so far, I think it’s okay to keep doing it as you have been.
I’m a male member who’s been with the club for two and a half years—a lost man in his 60s.
When I’m told, “I’ll leave it up to you,” I simply reply, “Understood.”
Bringing up specific figures on the spot is the height of tackiness.
If you’ve been entrusted with the decision, you shouldn’t complain afterward. If the outcome isn’t what you wanted, be prepared to part ways. That’s the proper way to handle it.
