Tips Apr 11, 2025 12:20

On social media and elsewhere, I often see people say that women with good manners and education, classy women, and “ordinary” women are popular in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

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But wouldn’t a woman who’s struggling financially enough to consider starting papa-katsu be unlikely to have grown up in an environment where she could develop those qualities? If she’s genuinely new to papa-katsu and poor, wouldn’t she be worried about not having anything suitable to wear if a papa (a male supporter) suggested meeting at an upscale restaurant? How do men who participate in papa-katsu see this?
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Fuu
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I sense some malice in the way you’re labeling people so definitively. Are you just bitter toward women who are thriving through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? lol This is just my definition of “non-professional,” but as far as Fuu is concerned, I’m fine with entering a papa-katsu arrangement as long as she isn’t currently working in the adult-entertainment industry. Even women who have had a pretty wild past or some experience in that industry are fine—as long as they look classy and well put-together. lol There are plenty of announcers and actresses who did papa-katsu back when they were students, too. They’re all glamorous now, though... Fuu’s monthly-arrangement partners usually have regular day jobs and do papa-katsu because they want some extra money. From their perspective, they get to choose their papa (a male supporter), and if they’re no longer happy, they can simply end things. They meet a few times a month and can receive hundreds of thousands of yen. One of Fuu’s monthly-arrangement partners even says she loves H and gets off a lot, so it helps her relieve work stress. There are also plenty of casual papa-katsu participants, so the women Fuu takes out can easily wear a GU dress. Based on Fuu’s experience, GRL dresses seem especially popular among papa-katsu women. If you have a cute face and a good figure, they can look expensive enough, so it’s totally fine. Apparently, the Gen Z and Millennial women in monthly arrangements prefer Darich. They joke that a lot of Grail clothes become unwearable after just one wash.
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To begin with, there’s really no need to go to expensive, upscale restaurants for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). As long as both people’s goals—whether that’s an adult relationship (intimate) or an allowance—are met, that’s what matters. From there, if the two of you share similar tastes—not just when it comes to food—the relationship can become more fulfilling. You should both spend your time and money on the things you actually want to enjoy. A woman who has no interest in places like that won’t want to go there in the first place. She’ll probably prefer her usual izakaya or ramen shop. On the other hand, if she regularly enjoys going out to eat on her own, she’ll be excited to dress up and enjoy an upscale restaurant, which will naturally raise your spirits too. From the woman’s perspective, simply having money spent on her isn’t necessarily enjoyable either. Going out with a man who has no interest in food and feeling pressured to act impressed by everything can be exhausting. She may end up thinking that a reasonably priced, down-to-earth restaurant would be much more enjoyable.
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I love Japanese food, so I often go to all kinds of restaurants on my own, from high-end places to casual eateries, and the customers are usually dressed normally. I can’t speak for upscale French restaurants, since I don’t go to them. For my club activities, I often book restaurants located in city hotels, but even then, people are dressed pretty casually.
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That’s an incredibly biased view. Not every woman is like that, and there are plenty of female members who have regular jobs and earn their own income. They aren’t necessarily in serious financial trouble. Some simply want to enjoy a little more luxury in their daily lives, are short on money because they’ve had several friends’ weddings to attend, want to save a bit more, or have started investing to prepare for the future. Personally, women like the ones you’re imagining are exactly the type I wouldn’t want to date, because I feel their bad energy would rub off on me. P.S. Come to think of it, the only time I’ve encountered a woman I wouldn’t even want to take to a decent restaurant at Universe Club was when I was given the opportunity to make an offer to someone who had been rejected at the interview stage. I happened to meet her after having tea with the staff member who had interviewed her, using the concierge service, so I went to the meeting place with the staff member. But the woman’s appearance was drastically different from how she had looked at the interview, and the staff member was at a loss for words—or rather, clearly embarrassed. If someone like that still gets rejected despite trying to present herself well, I don’t think Universe Club has many women like the ones you’re imagining.
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Age: 50s 👨 Male Universe member
I increase the allowance instead of taking them to upscale restaurants, so that’s never been a concern for me. There are also plenty of women who are doing fine in their everyday lives but want to take things to the next level.
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I don’t think many men would take someone to a restaurant with a dress code for the very first meeting. Some women worry that they don’t have anything suitable to wear to the interview, but with Universe Club, you can let the staff know, and they’ll inform the man. In that case, he’ll probably choose a place where casual clothes are fine. > Women with no papa-katsu experience are broke. That’s an incredibly biased thing to say. I’m not sure what level of poverty you’re talking about, but are people who work regular jobs really all that poor? Are all women in their 20s and 30s broke? Can’t you understand that not being wealthy isn’t the same as being poor?
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