I’m a man who does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I’m seeing a woman I’m close with in an adult relationship (intimate), and although we’ve only known each other for about three months, we’ve already met around ten times. She also says she doesn’t need an allowance when we’re just having dinner.
Apparently, she works at a hostess club as well. One day, she asked me to come to the club, so I did. I told her that even if I spent money through the club, none of it would become income for her, so wouldn’t it be better for me to meet her privately and give her an allowance directly? Even so, she says she’d still like me to come by occasionally.
Maybe it depends on the papa, but I wonder if there’s a risk of the club finding out about our papa-katsu arrangement. I’m not sure whether she trusts me, but what do you think is going through her mind?
For context, this is my first papa-katsu experience, and I believe she’s only been working as a hostess for about three months.
Maybe it’s best not to overthink it and just enjoy yourself…
Some men like hostess clubs, going out with hostesses, and taking things further, while others dislike it (personally, I’m completely not into it…).
Everyone enjoys different things, so if you and the app or hostess get along, that’s probably what matters most.
Since she wants an allowance for an adult relationship but doesn’t want dinner, she seems to have a clear transactional, hourly-rate mindset and probably has no qualms about getting money out of a man’s wallet.
If you’re okay with that, then I’d say you’re a good match.
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Have you ever been to a hostess club?
She gets extra money for bringing someone along and for having a designated customer, but it’s hard to stay at the club without either of those—especially for a newcomer.
If the person asking doesn’t mind, I think you should go and spend her allowance there.
As I wrote in a column, a former monthly partner of mine started working part-time at a sex cabaret club. I never went to the club, but she told me she wouldn’t get intimate with the customers there.
So I checked the club’s website and felt a little smug—she had become the club’s No. 1 as a part-timer. Everyone was buying her champagne hoping they might get lucky and sleep with her, while I was thinking, “But I’m actually intimate with her, lol.”
It’s papa-katsu, but still, lol.
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I never made her an offer, but I did come across a woman who used to be registered and worked in the nightlife industry. Her profile said she was also looking for support with her work at the club.
Some women start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with their customers, so perhaps the other person doesn’t mind that much.
Maybe she simply wants to increase her income at the club by getting more regulars and accompanying customers to the venue.
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She says that if she doesn’t have any regulars requesting her, people at work will make fun of her, so she wants to at least be a hostess who can attract a few regular customers.
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Hostess clubs have various quotas.
Also, if you want to move up in the club, you need customers who are willing to spend a decent amount of money.
If she doesn’t need an allowance when you’re only going out for a meal, why not spend that money by taking her to the hostess club instead?
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