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Mar 23, 2025 20:39
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I really like the papa I’ve met twice so far. He tells me things like, “You’re cute,” but we haven’t been able to make plans for our next date, and I’m feeling lonely…
Here’s how our recent LINE exchange went:
P: Let’s go on a trip sometime.
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Me: Let’s coordinate our schedules next month.
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A few days later
Me: When can we see each other next?
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A few days later
P: How about the 〇th?
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Me: I couldn’t make that day work, so I suggested another date.
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P: I’ll check again and get back to you soon.
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A few days later
Me: Any update on your schedule?
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P: I’m sorry—please give me a little more time.
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Me: Okay, followed by some casual conversation.
It’s been a week since then.
I can’t stop worrying that maybe he’s already lost interest or doesn’t actually want to see me.
I’m tempted to send another message with a selfie attached to some casual conversation, saying, “I miss you so much when we can’t meet, I could just die.” But would that only make him uncomfortable? 😭
I’d especially appreciate hearing from the men here.
Thank you in advance.
4 answers
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Don’t send another message.
Wait and see.
Whether he’s lost interest, genuinely busy, or short on money, you should probably be prepared to accept offers from other papas so that you won’t be hurt even if things end with him.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Whether it’s a follow-up text, a selfie, or anything else, send whatever you want—but I think it’s also important to include the dates you’re available to meet, or a few possible dates.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Sending a follow-up LINE by itself might come across as annoying, so I think adding a selfie is an interesting idea.
That said, “I’m so lonely when I can’t see you that I could die” feels a little iffy, so something like a selfie plus some casual conversation might work better.
Though if he isn’t interested in you, I do wonder whether a selfie would really make any difference. Still, I think it’s worth trying—you’ve got nothing to lose.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Everyone has their own opinion about things.
Even if you collect people’s responses, you won’t know which—if any—apply to that particular man, or whether any of them are relevant at all, so it won’t be much help.
That said, to answer your question, personally, if a woman I’d only met twice messaged me saying, “I’m so lonely when I can’t see you, I could die,” I’d probably feel that she was being annoyingly pushy.