Personally, I can’t finish that way, so I think it’s fine to reschedule.
I agree that rescheduling twice in a row doesn’t look good. If you’re on good terms, though, you may be able to reschedule if you explain the situation. If you tell him you’re okay with dinner only and don’t need an allowance, I think he’ll see that you’re being sincere.
Your next day off is around the 15th, so try suggesting a date that’s unlikely to be delayed or moved up.
This is about the second question. Last time, I wrote:
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It had only been two days since my Universe Club profile was completed when I received an offer from someone in the BLACK tier. As of the third day, six BLACK members had liked my profile...
2024/12/29 18:14 Woman, 20s, Universe female member 50924
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/17435
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She sounds like a humble and likable woman—probably a BLACK member.
This is just how I personally do things, but I have a clear standard: allowance of 50,000 yen when there’s intimacy, and 30,000 yen when intimacy isn’t possible because she’s on her period or for some other reason. So the women generally don’t have to worry too much. In your case, though, I get the feeling the allowance may be a little higher, and men who offer generous allowances may be less likely than I am to make a clear distinction based on whether intimacy takes place, so this may not be very helpful.
Using a menstrual sponge is another option. If you search for “sex during period menstrual sponge,” you’ll find instructions on how to use one. Once you master the technique, it’s really convenient. Even on the second day, there may not be any blood at all, so the other person won’t realize you’re on your period. However, some women can’t remove it themselves, in which case they have to go to a gynecologist to have it taken out, which can be quite a hassle. In my case, when a woman can’t remove it, I put my finger in and take it out for her—but I suppose that isn’t exactly helpful either. If you’re willing to reach far enough in, I think you can always find it and remove it.
As for the name displayed on LINE, in my case I almost never exchange LINE accounts for work, and among the roughly 100 women I’ve made offers to, I’d say only about two used their real names from the beginning. Almost everyone uses a symbol or one or two letters of the alphabet. Office workers who use LINE for work often ask to use KakaoTalk or regular text messages instead. With women I continue seeing, I eventually learn their real names and change their names in my contacts accordingly. So my entire LINE friends list uses real names, and I call them by their real names too.
I assume you exchange LINE contacts at the first meeting, but there often isn’t a second meeting. So when someone suddenly reveals her real name right away, I find myself worrying, “Is it really okay to be that careless?” In my case, my LINE name is just one hiragana character, but I introduce myself by my real name and company at the first meeting. I don’t have much to lose if my identity gets out. Still, I think young women shouldn’t give their real names to someone they don’t even know they can trust from the outset. They probably have quite a lot to lose.
After rereading what I wrote, I caught myself thinking, “If I have nothing to lose, why is my LINE name only one character?” But I originally used my real name on LINE. Since the women often didn’t use their real names, I gradually started matching their approach, which is how things are now. I didn’t want them to look at me and wonder, “Is this guy okay?” Also, I thought revealing my real name after meeting would make it seem more sincere—like, “I liked you, so I’m telling you my real name.”
The few women I’ve met who used their real names on LINE from the beginning seemed less genuinely innocent and more like the kindhearted type who might be easily deceived. If you tend to encounter women like that, Paper Airplane, I’d personally conclude that you have a strong instinct for finding people who look easy to deceive（笑). Innocence and being easily deceived may look similar, but they’re actually quite different. You could also see it as someone being cautious precisely because she’s genuinely innocent.
If you feel bad about it, why not suggest a date with little or no allowance and no adult relationship?
Situations like this really show what kind of person the papa (male supporter) is.
In response to Kamihikōki’s answer:
I have two phones, and I use my real name on one of them. The other was originally for communicating with a feng shui practitioner, so we both use pseudonyms, more or less.
Since we have club names, I feel that suddenly bringing up my real name would be rude.
It’s better to let him know that you don’t think it was meant to be and part ways without meeting.
You could meet, and that might lead to something, but unless the man is really into you, there’s a good chance he’ll feel it was a waste of time.
With a Type B arrangement, it would be completely different and there wouldn’t be any issue, though…
Mac,
Your comment made me realize again that you can tell what kind of relationship someone is looking for from their LINE name.
I was surprised when I read about your LINE name, Mac.
Almost all of the men I exchange LINE messages with use their full real names in kanji. The rest use their real family or given names, also in kanji or kana.
There was one person who used a single hiragana character, but he ended up losing a huge amount of money to a romance scam. When someone uses just one character or a symbol, I get the impression they’re doing something they can’t tell other people about.
Among the women, nearly half use their full real names in kanji, and most of the rest use either their family or given name. Since they use LINE to communicate with family, friends, and coworkers, I suppose there are simply more people like that. I feel women from dating clubs tend to be the same way.
P.S.
After reading the answers from Anzenchitai and Mac,
I was surprised to realize that people using their real names on LINE naturally seem to gravitate toward one another, while those using symbols or something other than their real names do the same—and that the two groups are quite clearly divided!!
Among women from dating clubs, my impression is that about 60–70% use their real names on LINE, while around 20–30% use a single character or a symbol.
People using something other than their real name often introduce themselves by their real name on the first day, whereas those using a single character seem more likely not to—and often appear to be very accustomed to this kind of activity.
If the LINE name gives you some idea of the relationship style someone has in mind, that could certainly be an advantage.
That said, in reality, I think it probably just comes down to whether someone bothers to change their LINE name specifically for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or simply continues using the same name.
Also, in my case, I’ve never changed the allowance even when there was no penetration because the woman was on her period.
However, if someone suggested something like that, I would become pretty put off because it would feel much more transactional and experienced—and I probably wouldn’t want to continue seeing her. If it’s essentially a final payment to end things, there’s no need to reduce the allowance anyway…
