This was the first time we were supposed to meet in about a month. He had chosen the date, time, and place, and I messaged him three days beforehand to confirm that everything still worked for him. He replied that it was fine.

Worrying about it won’t bring him back. Maybe there was an issue with the conversation or LINE messages, or perhaps it was simply a matter of timing.

> I feel uncomfortable with the way this part is being framed: > “He was a nice guy who paid the allowance upfront and made sure to say goodbye on time.” To me, this sounds like nothing more than a transactional sexual relationship, where the man is satisfied as long as he can have H and the woman is reasonably accommodating. If that’s how he sees things, then if he finds another woman he likes better, he’ll prioritize her, and it becomes a matter of simply contacting you again whenever he wants H. In that case, I feel the behavior described could easily happen. I don’t necessarily think someone who extends the date is better, but generally speaking, I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is more about meeting women who want to: - Spend more time together - Have a meal together - Go out for drinks together H may be part of it, but if you’re aiming for something that’s basically like a romantic relationship—with the only difference being that money is involved—then even if something comes up and the date has to be canceled, there would probably at least be a proper apology or a suggestion to meet another day. Of course, there are all kinds of women. I know some women think, “I’m not beautiful, so I’ll lower my allowance and make money through volume.” In that case, they probably have a large list of men, so if someone stands them up, they’ll either block him or simply not care because they have plenty of other men. I don’t know much about the adult entertainment industry, so I can’t say what precautions to take there. But if you’re active on Universe, I think it’s better to build a relationship that feels like you’re a couple while you’re together, even though money is involved. That said, it seems there are men who use Universe like an adult entertainment service too… > <

> If you’re saying you receive the allowance upfront, part ways on time, and only use LINE to stay in touch—with no casual chatting— A man who strongly prefers a transactional relationship might be okay with that, but it’s pretty close to private escorting. Without any excitement in the relationship or the adult relationship (intimate), continuing for more than three or four meetings would be quite difficult. Unlike women, men rarely cancel in their personal lives, so a last-minute cancellation is especially significant. It’s extremely rare for a woman to be stood up at the last minute without any notice, so I don’t think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is really a good fit for you.

Being stood up at the last minute is unforgivable, so that must have been really tough. As for often being left on read, could it be that you’re too passive and unresponsive during adult relationships? Since they can find plenty of other partners, someone who just lies there quietly and isn’t much fun tends to get pushed to the bottom of the list.

It’s an anonymous relationship involving money. Canceling at the last minute isn’t okay, but being dumped by getting blocked on LINE is pretty much the default, so you should accept it and move on. Even if you quit the club because you believed what he told you, this is the kind of thing that can happen. So you might as well continue without quitting—or, if you’ve already left, I think you should rejoin. That said, this is still a relationship between a man and a woman, so it’s difficult to maintain things without some charm or endearing qualities. From the way you wrote your question, you come across as cool and focused on blaming others, and I didn’t sense much feminine charm. You probably don’t have much support from men. Even if you’re cool or distant, things might continue if you’re good in bed, or if you have qualities that make you worth the allowance from the papa’s perspective. But if you don’t have those qualities—or can’t offer them—then realistically, I think all you can do is accept that it’s a transactional relationship: take offers, date, break up, and repeat. If you pay close attention to the other person and can give them the kind of relationship they want, things may continue. It’s easy to say, but difficult to put into practice, isn’t it?