When sending an offer, they may message several people at the same time and see how each person responds.
Since Patro doesn’t have classes, I don’t think this is limited to black-class members specifically.
If the number of messages is overwhelming or you find it annoying, you can just ignore them.
Though, you might miss out on offers from people who don’t ignore you...
> This is common among BLACK members.
As far as I know, PATOLO doesn’t currently have membership tiers for male members. Maybe they saw a recent question mentioning “Black” and casually wrote that without thinking, just to join in on the topic?
Or perhaps it’s a man pretending to be a woman, who doesn’t even know how male members are displayed and simply wrote it anyway.
There are several odd points in this question, but it’s also possible that a man happened to brag in chat, saying, “I’m Black.” However, that’s a tier at Universe, and PATOLO doesn’t have membership tiers.
> Do they just want to exchange messages?
To begin with, PATOLO has neither an enrollment fee nor an annual membership fee, so there are also men there whose income level is frankly lower than what you’d find on a typical dating app.
To put it bluntly, they’re even lower-level than the people on dating sites like Wa〇Wa〇.
The lack of an enrollment fee and annual fee is the same, but PATOLO also lets you exchange messages for free.
On Wa〇Wa〇, you’re charged per message, so on PATOLO, chatting is completely free.
It’s basically become a volunteer organization.
What a wonderful initiative that contributes to society.
But women aren’t getting paid for it, so I sometimes wonder whether they really need to participate in someone else’s volunteer project.
There’s nothing wrong with accommodating an older man who simply wants to exchange messages, but your purposes are different in the first place.
So I think the questioner’s concerns are perfectly reasonable, and it’s important to remember why you registered in the first place.
> Honestly, I feel uncomfortable, as if he’s just stringing me along without making an offer.
I don’t think he intends to make an offer.
Men who are actually going to make an offer usually press the official offer button fairly quickly, within about a week.
There are also men who decide on the date, time, and place, but then never press the offer button.
The woman assumes that the appointment is confirmed, keeps that day open, and avoids making other plans. But because the button was never pressed, many men simply don’t show up.
Let me say that again: “Many of them.”
So unless the man presses the button, it’s fine to make other plans. In fact, to protect yourself from men like that, I think it’s perfectly reasonable not to put it on your calendar and simply leave it pending.
Some men will say things like, “I was going to press the offer button the day before. It’s outrageous that you stood me up.”
But I can’t help thinking, “What are you talking about? You never made an offer.”
So, for their own protection, women should assume that the arrangement isn’t confirmed until an official offer has been made.
If the man complains, you can report it to PATOLO and say, “I’ve been stood up this way before, so I assumed this would be the same.”
I don’t think this kind of hostile back-and-forth was what they originally intended, but as long as the system allows free messaging, this is bound to happen.
It was something they should have anticipated before creating the system.
However, as long as the company president believes this system is more beneficial for the business, members need to adapt and protect themselves. Otherwise, I think the members will be the ones who lose out.
If you don’t like that, I recommend changing your settings so that you don’t receive messages.
PATOLO does have a setting system where staff members get involved, too. It’s just that many men don’t use it because the setting fee isn’t exactly cheap.
