About Genital Herpes

You were the one who was worried about delayed ejaculation, right? If it were me—or rather, this actually happened with one of the college girls I’m currently seeing—I’d feel positively about her for being honest. At our first meeting, when we discussed getting tested for STIs, she told me, “I have genital herpes.” She said she’d contracted it six months earlier and still occasionally had outbreaks, so she takes one valacyclovir tablet every day. Apparently, it’s covered by insurance. Since she doesn’t develop a rash while taking it, and it isn’t contagious when there’s no outbreak, we have sex with condoms. For the record, she tested negative for all other STIs. Incidentally, I also take one valacyclovir tablet every day—not because I have herpes, but as a preventive measure. That’s why I purchase it out of pocket from a doctor friend. As you probably know, genital herpes can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact even when using a condom, so I take valacyclovir daily and briefly check her entire genital area before penetration to make sure there’s no sign of an outbreak. I hope this helps. Someone who is that honest can actually make you feel more reassured, so it’s not too late—why not try rekindling the relationship?

Doesn’t it depend on your relationship with the other person? A woman I used to date once told me she had oral herpes, but I continued seeing her. Whether it’s oral or genital, I consider it the same herpes virus.