I previously asked about how emotionally difficult an adult relationship can be for me.

I think you’ll be fine if you can find a nurturing papa who’s willing to wait patiently! It might be a good idea to explain that having an adult relationship with someone you were afraid of or didn’t really know was emotionally difficult for you. If he starts thinking, “Maybe someday I’ll be able to have an adult relationship with her!” then you may be able to create the kind of deeply invested situation Mack-san was talking about, right? (❁´ω`❁) If you don’t keep things within limits you’re comfortable with, you may end up having to quit, so I think it’s wonderful that you’re able to pace yourself! I’m rooting for you! •*¨*•.¸¸☆꒰ᐢ⸝⸝⸝⸝ᐢ꒱♡

I’m not sure why you’re making such a big deal of it. If you think you can have sex with him, you might as well do it right away. I don’t understand what you’re basing it on when you say to wait six months. If you want to make money from dinner-only dates, then you should stick to that. But if you want an allowance for sex, I think you’ll earn more overall by doing it sooner… And if an adult relationship is difficult for you in the first place, I think you should quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with adult relationships.

Just as there are women like you, I believe there are also men who share similar views and feel the same way. Since this is a dating club, you could think of an adult relationship (intimate) as the natural extension of dating after building a relationship, meaning dating can still be fulfilling without intimacy. However, dating clubs also make it possible to move toward an adult relationship after meeting a few times, without a romantic-style dating period. So there probably aren’t many women—or men—who want to enjoy the relationship itself more than the allowance. > There probably aren’t many men who can continue meeting for meals three or four times a month for more than six months, but I believe some do exist. Among women I’ve met through the club, there are some I’ve had dinner with more than 100 times. Outside the club, there’s also a woman I’ve met more than 1,000 times over several years. For men, an adult relationship (intimate) is important, but to make it more fulfilling, what they value varies from person to person—things like the kind of dates, the nature of the relationship, trust, being able to consult with each other, a partner-like relationship, and, depending on the person, the amount of the allowance. If it were intimacy alone, you’d probably get tired of it after meeting 1,000 times. But with meals, I don’t think there’s much chance of getting bored, no matter how many times you meet.

I don’t mind women with complicated circumstances—just like properties with a history. Sometimes the club asks me, “She’s a woman with some issues. Would you consider making an offer to her? She may quit the club if things continue like this,” and I go on dates with them. I’ve continued seeing some women for dinner only: one who repeatedly makes plans and then cancels at the last minute, and another who registered as B1 but switched to A because she was being asked for adult relationships too often. As long as we have fun, I don’t really care whether it’s dinner or an adult relationship. What matters is whether you have the skills to keep papas entertained with dinner alone. There are plenty of beautiful women out there, so you should assume you can’t compete on looks alone. The key is how well you can make a papa enjoy himself with dinner only. If you can do that, you can survive even as an A-type. I even have a monthly partner who has stayed with me for over two years as an A-type, and we’re still very close. We’ve never had an adult relationship, but she’s stayed over at my place and slept beside me.

I’m looking to use a dating club to meet someone who would also enjoy sex together. So I probably wouldn’t make an offer to a woman who’s hesitant about that, and if I met her and found out she wasn’t interested, I wouldn’t see her again. That said, some men apparently enjoy the challenge of working toward having sex, so depending on how you approach things, you may be able to find that kind of man.

In that case, you’ll need to master the art of getting someone emotionally hooked. Streamers and idols get people to spend money and support them without having an adult relationship, right? It’s the same idea. Apparently, Itadaki Ririchan’s notes and blogs about how hosts win over female customers can be helpful. Instead of sleeping with them, you lie constantly, so it’ll take a toll on your mental health. Be prepared for that. If things go well, making hundreds of thousands of yen from a single dinner date isn’t just a dream. If you re-register and choose A or B1, you’ll probably be downgraded and start around Platinum. Then, with the men who approach you there, I’d start with little lies like: “I used to be in C or D, but when it came down to it, I got scared. I actually haven’t had an adult relationship even once, and nothing ever lasted. You’re the first kind man like you I’ve ever met.” Of course, repeating those little lies is exactly how a person’s mind gradually starts to break down.