Thankfully, I received offers through Universe Club and met several people with an adult relationship (intimate) involved.

I’m a pretty emotionally troubled papa-katsu girl myself, but the first step down a dark path was when I ate feces for money. If you don’t have to keep doing things against your will, it’s better not to. If you’re not in financial despair, I think it’s okay to leave papa-katsu behind now. Or you could use papa-katsu as an opportunity to become more sexually uninhibited.

Well, it would probably be difficult if you don’t enjoy sex. But that could change as you get older. You might even come to enjoy it after living with your boyfriend and having sex frequently. For now, why not register as Type A with a dating club, and as a dinner-only girl on a papa-katsu app? You could also try paid drinking companionship, snack bars, girls’ bars, or cabaret clubs. If you’re especially attractive and carry yourself well, you might even be suited to upscale clubs in Ginza or Akasaka.

Is the same person as always writing under a different persona? The posts are all more or less the same: “I put up with it, but I just couldn’t take it anymore.” “I didn’t like this kind of activity to begin with,” or “I could only meet unpleasant older men.” It feels like they’re determined to emphasize how unpleasant this activity is—or even like they’re trying to preach something. If they really hate it, they can just quietly quit. There’s no need to post about it here. Besides, the way they describe things in the first part clearly makes it sound like they’re not suited for this in the first place. So asking, “Am I not suited for it?” is strange to begin with. If you find it even slightly unpleasant, please just quietly leave. There’s no need to keep announcing how much you hate it. There are plenty of people who have wonderful encounters, and many women come back for a second photo shoot looking unbelievably more beautiful than when they first registered, surprising the staff. So I don’t think there’s any need to run a negative campaign. That said, I do wonder why women who meet a great man suddenly become so much more beautiful. There are actually quite a lot of women like that, and it becomes a topic of conversation among the staff. For example—and I’m sure the people involved would know who I mean even if I don’t name anyone—the woman who dated a certain respondent (perhaps she still does; I haven’t asked) looked like an ordinary person when I first met her. Sorry ＜＜ But when I saw her a second time, she had become incredibly beautiful. I remember thinking, “What on earth happened to her to make her look like this?”

As a basic premise, I think you simply haven’t met a papa (a male supporter) who could accept that you originally disliked intimacy and found an adult relationship (intimate) even more unpleasant and painful every time you met. There are papa-katsu men who want to date women like that, though they’re not very common. If you continue that kind of relationship, come to understand each other, and have good chemistry, it can sometimes develop naturally into a deeply intimate relationship that feels surprisingly wonderful. So I think you just haven’t met someone who shares your way of thinking. If the adult relationship (intimate) also develops with someone like you—the kind of woman asking this question—it can create a strong sense of specialness, which can be very attractive to a man. Rather than feeling that way with just anyone, the difference is clear when a woman like that gradually changes and opens up, and that can become one of the things a man finds especially rewarding. That said, I don’t think there are many men like that. There may be far more men who place overwhelming importance on intimacy than those who want a relationship where you simply enjoy various things together. Considering that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is often about efficiency, that aspect is probably unavoidable.

Rather than being unsuited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), maybe you just haven’t met a man who’s good in bed yet. I’m not writing this with some smug “I’m amazing” attitude. I’ve met plenty of men at lifestyle clubs who were far better than me, and physical compatibility matters too. It’s like taking a girl who says she doesn’t like sea urchin to an expensive sushi restaurant and letting her try properly prepared uni without alum. She might be amazed and say, “Was it always this delicious?!” Of course, some people are easier to develop than others, some are more sensitive, and people vary in their sex drive. But in my experience, even girls who seem to genuinely hate sex start enjoying it to some extent if they keep meeting someone a few times a month for around two years. Whether he’s a papa (a male supporter) or a boyfriend, I hope you meet a man you’re truly compatible with. That said, it’s not like not knowing how delicious uni is will ruin your life. > The second time I saw her, she was unbelievably beautiful. I know exactly what you mean. I’ve seen quite a few women whom I first approached as “Gold,” then dated and watched move up to Platinum and eventually Black each time we took new photos. If someone is told “You’re cute” and “You’re beautiful” and is held every time she meets a man, that alone would probably boost her self-esteem. But beyond that, things like my particular preferences—nude photos, visiting mixed-gender hot springs, or showing off at lifestyle clubs—tend to make people frown. Still, every single woman who has gone along with those things has visibly become more beautiful. That shows just how powerful it can be for a woman to have men look at her naked and pay attention to her. I’m not bragging; I’m simply reporting what I’ve observed. Not many people seem to notice it, but it makes sense, doesn’t it? AV directors and glamour photographers probably already know this. Women who discover the pleasure of sex start to develop a more sensual expression, while women who have men looking at their naked bodies become more toned and beautiful. If both things happen at the same time, of course they can change so much that they look like completely different people—especially if they started out as virgins or with very little experience with men. The difference from plastic surgery is that it’s not about changing individual features, but about the overall impression. That’s another real pleasure of being a papa who helps a girl grow. It’s not that beautiful people become actresses; they become beautiful by becoming actresses. Does putting it that way make the point clearer?

I guess it just wasn’t for you. You should’ve realized that the moment you knew you disliked sex.