Women aren’t automatically okay with spending the night with just anyone, right? Whether they’re okay with it or not depends on the man’s age, appearance, personality, physical compatibility, allowance, destination, and timing, doesn’t it?

I’m Saito, a columnist ♪ I don’t like overnight stays because they’re a hassle. If a woman asks to travel abroad, I’ll go for up to four days and two nights. But we need separate rooms, and during the day we each need free time to do our own thing—otherwise I feel suffocated. This kind of pseudo-romance is time-limited. There are men like that, too. Everyone’s different.

I’m a male member who’s been registered for two and a half years—still finding my way in my 60s. I think you’re absolutely right. You joined seeking a simulated romantic relationship, not a sex-service experience where a man can impose his one-sided feelings. So I find it strange when someone immediately accuses a woman of misrepresenting her type just because things don’t go his way, or insists that the staff should have asked in advance about everything he wanted to know. I wish he would look back on his own romantic experiences when he was younger. Did everything really go exactly as you wanted? Weren’t there times when you were rejected or rejected someone, over and over, without being able to talk to anyone about it? Through those experiences, men came to understand women’s feelings, and women came to understand men’s feelings—and that’s how relationships worked out, or didn’t. Women presumably register because they want support, but what do you think of the attitude that a man providing support should always stand above the woman, and that she should do as he says? That may be acceptable in the sex industry, but if I were a woman looking for a simulated romantic relationship, I wouldn’t want to be involved with a man like that.

Maezawa here. You’re absolutely right. It’s only natural for things to vary depending on the person once you’ve actually met them. That said, separately from that, I wondered whether asking if an overnight stay would be possible when seeing each other freely from the second meeting onward was really a way of asking whether she could travel together. What I mean is, there are women who: - Have pets and can’t go on trips - Live with their parents, making it difficult to say they’re going away - Are married and can’t travel - Are single mothers whose children are still too young to leave behind - Or have some other reason they can’t take an overnight trip, even after becoming close So perhaps the question is whether the woman has any circumstances that would make that impossible. As for whether such circumstances exist, it’s difficult to know how involved the club should be. Even if it seems impossible at first, there may be ways to overcome the obstacle—for example, leaving a pet at a boarding facility. In that case, it would probably be best for the two of them to discuss it directly after meeting and becoming comfortable with each other. Still, if a man is specifically looking for someone he can travel with, I thought it might be reasonable to ask the woman in advance. That said, from the woman’s perspective, there are certainly situations where she might be comfortable with one man but not with another. So ultimately, I feel it would be best for the two of them to discuss it after meeting. > I thought men who weren’t like that chose dating clubs, but has the demographic been changing? The term papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) has become more widely known, so perhaps things have gradually started to change.