I haven’t had an adult relationship (intimate) yet, but is it normal to do it without a condom?
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Several people have asked me to do it without one. I was surprised because I thought using a condom was standard, even outside papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Some even offered 1.5 for an adult relationship (intimate) without a condom, but I feel that’s awful considering the risk of pregnancy for women.
If you did papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through a reputable dating club and thought things through beforehand,
you wouldn’t end up being negotiated with based on the allowance rates offered online or by street solicitors.
Or, I’m sorry if your looks aren’t good enough to pass an interview at a dating club.
If you don’t want to go without a condom, you can simply refuse. Just keep working on standing your ground.
For men, going without one feels so good that it outweighs their fear of getting a disease, so you should just accept that they’ll always try to negotiate.
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After seeing Mac’s earlier answer about how high the rate of STIs is, I got cold feet, so I’ve been taking antibiotics the day after I’m intimate with a woman for the first time.
My ace is staying over tonight, but I’m planning to have my first adult date with another woman during the day. I’m thinking I’ll get through tonight without even kissing my ace, then secretly take Zithromax tomorrow.
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Based on my own experiences, I’ve encountered three types of women. Some, like you, believe using a condom is a given and that going without one is out of the question. Others are okay with it once they’ve fallen for someone and built a trusting relationship. You may find this hard to imagine, but there are also women who will have unprotected sex from the very first meeting.
My understanding is that what feels “normal” varies from woman to woman. In that sense, I think you should stick to your own beliefs without worrying about what anyone else thinks.
Incidentally, going without a condom carries the risk of pregnancy, but the risk of STIs is even greater. If you do have unprotected sex, I believe getting tested afterward is essential. Even if your partner says, “You’re the only one,” you shouldn’t simply take her word for it—you should only trust a series of test results. Oh, this advice is for male members.
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What’s considered “normal” varies from person to person.
For someone who wants to accommodate a man’s wishes, they may consider it “normal” to agree if he says he prefers not to use a condom.
That said, I think the more common view is that condoms should be used to avoid risks.
However, that man probably considers not using condoms his “normal.” I suppose it’s normal for people to have different ideas of what’s normal.
From your question, it sounds like your own normal is to use condoms, so I think you should continue to stick to that and not let other people’s words or actions sway you.
That’s why, when stories come up on Q&A sites about men having sex without a condom without the woman’s consent, even though she didn’t want to or asked him to use one, I sometimes think:
“Couldn’t she sue him for sexual assault?”
More important than what’s considered normal is whether both people have agreed and whether either person is doing something the other dislikes.
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What counts as “normal,” anyway?
Take registering with a dating club, for example. Some people may consider it normal, while others may not.
If it makes you uncomfortable, you simply don’t have to agree to it.
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