You should talk to the man before writing it in the survey.
If you haven’t exchanged contact information, you probably won’t see him again, so you might as well accept it.
If you have exchanged contact information and think there’s a chance you’ll see him again, you should communicate with him properly.
Whether it was a misunderstanding or not, if the man offers it, that was his decision, so most women would probably gratefully accept it.
On the other hand, if you feel you don’t need that much, you should say so proactively. Men generally aren’t put off by a woman saying the allowance is more than enough. It can greatly increase their impression of her and become one factor in building a long-term relationship. I think the important thing isn’t the amount itself, but being able to have that kind of honest communication.
That said, apparently some men simply want to give a generous (well-paying) allowance regardless of what the other person wants. After talking for a while, if you realize he’s that type of person, it’s best to understand that it’s simply one of his preferences and accept it. There’s nothing to gain from rejecting a man’s preferences. It’s better to remember that the choice of whether to accept or refuse is yours.
Taro
For a dinner date arranged as a first meeting, the club’s rules apply.
Women are not allowed to ask for more than ¥10,000 in transportation expenses (which is essentially a gratuity). So if you ask for ¥20,000 or ¥30,000 and receive it, the man may complain to the club, and you could be forcibly removed from the club.
That would be a violation of the rules.
However, if the man voluntarily gives you ¥20,000, ¥30,000, or even more because you made sure he had a good time, that is not against the rules. You can accept it without worry, and you don’t need to report it to the club.
And since he gave it to you of his own accord, he is unlikely to file a complaint.
Men who give that generously generally have plenty of financial leeway, so even if you continue seeing them, you may find them more enjoyable in various ways than men who are stingy.
So, regarding your question:
> I’d like to ask whether it’s okay to accept the money as it is.
Yes, it’s perfectly fine to accept it.
Incidentally, dates after the second meeting are up to the two of you, so you’re free to ask for ¥20,000 or ¥30,000 for dinner only (no intimacy).
That said, most men dislike being asked for that directly by a woman. So even after the second meeting, it may be better to think about how you can make him want to give you more voluntarily.
Still, it might be more enjoyable to simply spend time together without focusing too much on those things. Rather than concentrating on the allowance, I feel it’s better to pay close attention to the man himself and see how things develop.
The membership rules state: “Male members are free to give more than ¥10,000, but female members are prohibited from requesting more than the transportation allowance set by our company from male members.”
If you didn’t ask for more than ¥10,000, then there’s no problem at all.
Whether you mention it in the survey is entirely up to you. I think it’s fine to accept the money as is.
