I’ve had a papa (a male supporter) for almost a year.

> From a man’s perspective, do you think his reason for not being able to meet is genuine? Whether it’s true or not isn’t really the main issue here. The concern is that he may simply no longer want to meet you. The reason may be that you weren’t able to meet as often as planned because you had unavoidable commitments this month. It would be more natural for him to look for someone else he can meet the agreed number of times. That said, this is also a matter of compatibility. Going forward, you may want to find a papa (a male supporter) who is understanding when you have other commitments.

Tomioka (staff) will answer. The answer is: “I don’t know.” Only you, having continued the relationship with him, can truly know what the relationship is like. If that’s how you feel, then it may well be the case. Can you think of anything that might have made your interactions with him seem careless or distant? If not, he may contact you once things have settled down.

I find the questioner’s “I have something I absolutely can’t get out of” more suspicious than the papa’s “My wife saw my phone and found out, so I can’t meet for a while.” I suppose that’s because I’m a man. Sorry. By the way, this is her fourth question. She seems to be the type who says: ① She doesn’t particularly enjoy sex, but since she’s being paid, she wants to make a reasonable effort; and ② When a man is the one to turn her down, she can’t help feeling as though he’s lying to her. Reading through her previous questions, it’s interesting to get a sense of what kind of person she is. I always find your answers helpful. I’m a woman in my 20s and have been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for quite a while. I’ve been introduced to various men so far. Men who fit the following description... 2022/12/07 01:14 Woman, 20s, Universe Club female member https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14706 I always refer to your answers for guidance. I’d like to hear men’s opinions. I don’t particularly enjoy sex itself. However, since I’m receiving an allowance... 2022/12/07 20:31 Woman, 20s, Universe Club female member https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14708 I always find your answers helpful. When I had an adult relationship (intimate) with a man I met through this club, he kept insistently asking me to kiss him... 2022/12/20 13:46 Woman, 20s, No answer https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/14793

Who knows? It might be true, or maybe she just wants to break things off. If that’s how she feels, and she doesn’t want to end things over something that would basically force her papa to lie, she could simply say, “I can’t meet this month because of personal circumstances, so I’m fine with no allowance—or a reduced amount.” I understand wanting the allowance even when you haven’t met, but being blinded by the money right in front of you is such a waste. If things continued, she could’ve received several months’ worth of allowance, which would’ve been much more in the long run...

It depends on what the “absolutely unavoidable matter” was. If you were hospitalized because you were unwell, I’d understand if you had to see him less often. But if that wasn’t the case, he may have gotten upset because you prioritized other commitments and didn’t offer to make it up to him, thinking, “Forget it, then.” Whether you end things as they are or suggest some way to make it up to him and patch things up is up to you, I think.

Whatever the reason, I think it’s better to judge by the simple fact of whether he can meet you or not. If he wants to see you, he’ll make it happen—or at least try to find an opportunity—so I don’t think someone would just say, “I won’t be able to see you for a while.” Of course, “my wife found out” and “work is really busy” are the classic excuses for not being able to meet. If you hear something like that, I think being mature means understanding what they really mean and responding accordingly. That said, judging from the situation you described, it seems more likely that he’s sulking than that he’s lost interest. I’m not really a fan of monthly arrangements, but in the past, I had a monthly arrangement with a woman, and even though the monthly amount was the same, our relationship became closer than it had been when we met on a pay-per-meeting basis. We chatted every day until one of us fell asleep, and we’d spend one weekend a month together overnight. At one point, she even suggested, “Wouldn’t it be better to stay up and have fun that weekend instead?” In the end, we’d sometimes fall asleep at a bar while we were out, so I had the extra hassle of carrying her home—but honestly, I felt pretty fulfilled. (^^) For example, say a woman who used to receive 5 per meeting switched to a monthly arrangement of 15 or 20. If that works out to three or four meetings a month, but you can only meet twice this month, and all he says is, “Sorry, I’ll make it up to you next time,” then I can understand why the man would think, “That’s not what I meant,” and sulk. Your situation may be following a similar pattern. Or maybe not. Who knows. Taro

There’s no way for us to know whether it’s true. I don’t think collecting guesses from complete strangers will do you any good.