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Whatever the nature of the relationship, after a year, some bonds grow deeper while others don’t. If you’re being led around yet still find yourself reaching out, it’s time to call it quits. And if this papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) relationship began through a hostess club, all the more reason to end it. If the other person has been stringing you along—or if he’s a papa (a male supporter)—it’s better to proceed as Mac suggests in points ① and ②. There’s no need for you to take any strong initiative. If you leave the choice up to him, you may not even need to say goodbye.

What a hassle lol I’ve dated a hostess before, so I know how you feel. They tend to be used to men, strong-willed, and pretty intense when it comes to both their personality and their allowance lol—though I guess it depends on the person... I broke things off with Fuu pretty quickly. She was only beautiful in the face, and was rather passive in an adult relationship. At the end of the day, this is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so if she sees you every week, it’s for the money. Since she probably meets a lot of people, I suspect she has other papas besides you, so I get the feeling she’d be fine even if you broke up. If you’re interested, sign up here and try papa-katsu with women who aren’t in the adult-entertainment industry. I highly recommend it lol If you prefer strong-willed women, try a hostess club instead of this site.

I’m not sure what exactly you’re struggling with, but generally speaking, if you feel that things just aren’t going to work anymore, it’s time to move on. If you’re torn because there are things you dislike about her but also things you like, then I think it’s fine to continue seeing her until you feel you really can’t do it anymore. I don’t know the specific circumstances, but if you’re tired of being toyed with and would prefer someone you can take the lead with, then it may be best to end things and look for a woman who suits your preferences. That said, if you’re still attracted to your current partner in one way or another, you could join Universe Club and look for someone who matches your tastes while continuing to see her. If you meet someone you can take the lead with but find the relationship lacking, you can continue seeing your current partner. And if you decide that you really prefer being with someone you can take the lead with, you can end things with your current partner then.

Tom ioka (Staff) answering. If you’re already having doubts, I feel the end of the relationship may be near. It depends on what’s causing those doubts, but when it’s time to walk away, I recommend ending things cleanly and decisively. I’ve seen all kinds of relationships, and I’ve never seen anything good come from dragging one out.

If she’s incredibly good in bed, cute, and you really can’t bring yourself to let her go, then stick it out. But if she’s not worth the allowance, I’d recommend a soft landing just as Mac suggested.

I think it’s time to break up when you no longer want to see them. Whether or not you tell your partner the truth depends on the circumstances. But I have to wonder—are you really asking other people about this?

Women like that tend to have a lot of pride, so the moment they sense they’re about to be cut loose, they may be the ones to start cursing you out and picking a fight. Be prepared. And by “be prepared,” I mean something on the level of: “This relationship isn’t just about money. It’s not romantic, but there are feelings involved. You’re my errand boy and my slave, you idiot! You want to break up? Huh? What are you talking about? I’m the one who decides whether we break up! Let me make this perfectly clear: I’ve never felt even the slightest bit of affection for you—not for a single second. I hate you! And actually, I have a boyfriend. He found out about you recently, and because he loves me, he’s directing his anger at you instead of me. He says he’s going to go to your house, tell your wife everything, and settle this in person. Isn’t that crazy? Well, if I try to calm him down, maybe I can keep things from getting that far—but you made me angry. For now, I think I’ll tell my boyfriend about what happened today. You’re seriously pissing me off. I hate you!” That kind of intensity. By the way, if you want to avoid a breakup like this: ① Don’t contact her first. ② If she contacts you, always meet her. ③ If she says, “Why haven’t you been contacting me lately? We’re seeing each other less than before,” modestly and apologetically imply that you’re short on money by saying something like, “Actually, things haven’t been going well at work, and I can’t keep this up financially.” ④ Never block her. Aim for a soft landing. You only need to mention that you’re short on money once, quietly. If you keep repeating it, she’ll suspect you’re trying to cut her off. Say it shyly and apologetically.