When I take a shower before the gentleman, I sometimes leave out a towel and a toothbrush with toothpaste already on it for him as well, and he’ll thank me for it. But thinking about it more, could that make him feel like I’m too accustomed to this kind of thing or seem “escort-like”? I’ve never worked in the adult entertainment industry, so maybe I’m overthinking it, but am I going overboard? Are there any other things that give off that kind of impression or feel like too much?

Some people are very particular about cleanliness, so I’ll leave a toothbrush somewhere visible by the sink to make it clear that they should brush their teeth—but I don’t open the package. I mean, that would be unhygienic, wouldn’t it? Also, I’ll put a towel somewhere nearby so it’s ready to use when they get out of the bath. Otherwise, they might walk around with wet feet, slip and fall, and I could end up having to call an ambulance. That’s something ingrained in me from my days working in healthcare, but… If you prepare too much, they may think you’re in the sex industry or very experienced, which could put you at a disadvantage. So I think it’s best to leave a few things slightly unprepared.

That’s amazing. You’re going too far. You’re really devoted. What else do you do for him? Wouldn’t doing too much leave you exhausted?

In my case, towels and toothbrushes don’t make me think of sex work. Regardless of whether it’s sex work or not, there are times when the nature of what they do makes me think they’re experienced.

If you’ve never worked in the adult entertainment industry, I think any mannerisms are fine. If you’re worried that something might be overdoing it, you can simply avoid doing it. But if it’s something you genuinely want to do, I think it’s better and more natural to go ahead. Unlike working in the adult entertainment industry, you’re free to choose whether you do something or not. You don’t have to do anything you’re uncomfortable with or provide any special service. Acting naturally and comfortably lets your true personality show, which I think is a good thing. For men, it’s also wonderful to see a woman genuinely having fun and enjoying herself.

This can vary from man to man, so some may feel that even this comes across as being like a sex worker. However, I think most men wouldn’t see it that way over something this minor. That said, I don’t think you need to go out of your way to prepare toothbrushes. If you want your partner to brush his teeth too, it can be difficult to ask directly, but you could brush your own teeth while he’s nearby—he might even brush his at the same time. If it really bothers you, you could ask by saying something like, “Would you mind brushing your teeth? I’m a little germ-conscious…” However, many men dislike being told what to do, so if it’s something you can overlook, I think it’s better not to say anything. Another thing I often hear from men is that they dislike women who ask for their allowance immediately after entering the room because it feels too much like a sex worker. I think you can ignore that kind of opinion. In fact, if a man thinks something that minor makes a woman seem like a sex worker, you could just as reasonably decide that he seems too much like one yourself and isn’t worth dating. That said, since a fair number of men apparently do feel that way, it may be better to observe him carefully during dinner. If you feel that he’s the kind of man who would pay your allowance properly afterward, then it might be best not to say anything and simply wait for the right moment. However, if he already seems insensitive during dinner, there probably isn’t much benefit in continuing to see him. In that case, asking for your allowance as soon as you enter the room may actually be the right choice. Another thing men dislike is women who give off a strong transactional vibe. For example, saying things like, “I want you to finish quickly,” or, “Are you done yet?” in bed, or trying to shower and get dressed immediately afterward, tends to put men off. So I think it’s better to make sure you don’t get out of bed before he does, and not comment on when he’s going to finish.

She says that when she takes a bath beforehand, she’s getting ready for the man who’s coming afterward. Personally, I wouldn’t assume from that alone that she has worked at an adult entertainment establishment. I think most people would see her as a considerate woman. The women who have made me suspect they were adult-industry workers were often the ones who had lied either in what they reported to the club or in conversations with me. I understand why someone would want to hide that experience, since they may be more likely to receive offers if they do. But if they claim they have no such experience, more and more things stop adding up. Of course, it can also show in their overall vibe, behavior, and other nonverbal aspects. Sometimes you can even spot the lie through the cover story they use to conceal it. After meeting a few times, I imagine it’s difficult to keep convincingly playing a made-up role like an actor. That said, my belief that someone is lying is based only on my own bias and intuition, so I don’t actually know the truth. When I get the feeling that someone is lying, I usually stop inviting them. I think it’s fine to share only the information that’s convenient for you, but actively lying—rather than simply staying silent—makes it difficult for things to last.

It depends on what else she does, but personally, if all she did was leave out a toothbrush with toothpaste on it, I’d probably just think she was the caring, motherly type. Quite a few women leave out towels as well. I think a woman’s experience working in the adult entertainment industry is more likely to show in bed, but that can also be influenced by her preferences and past experiences with men, so I don’t think you can say for sure.