I’m wondering whether I should give my papa a souvenir. When I travel, I sometimes give friends souvenirs worth around 1,000 yen, but although I’ve received gifts from my papa, I’ve never given him anything. I always end up deciding not to because I worry his wife might find out, or think that since he’s wealthy, he wouldn’t want a small snack like that anyway.

If your papa gives you souvenirs, try buying some snacks—just enough to finish together at the hotel. Tell him, “Let’s eat them together,” and see how he reacts. (And make sure beforehand that he can eat sweets.) If you get to eat them together, Fuu would be happy. Even a papa who can’t take them home would probably appreciate some snacks to enjoy together at the hotel. Personally, I’m not really comfortable with homemade food, though… With a smile: “What if there’s something bad for me—or even poison—in it, and you’re trying to make me eat it? lol I’m scared~”

Thank you for your question. My name is Kurosaki from the Shinsaibashi branch of Universe Club. Rather than the gift itself or its price, I think he would appreciate the thought behind giving him a souvenir or present. Something handmade might feel a little too much, but depending on the person, it could really resonate with him. I hope you continue to build a great relationship♪

Wouldn’t it be enough to give him a small souvenir in return when you travel? As for something homemade… I’m not so sure. If you want to build a good relationship with that papa, it’s probably best to give him something in return for the souvenir.

I think it’s better to bring a souvenir, since it’s the thought behind it—not the item itself—that’s appreciated. That said, it should be something small enough to eat on the spot. As Mac mentioned, maybe just one piece from an eight-piece package would be ideal. > Would something homemade be appreciated? Anyone who has had a bad experience with homemade food in the past will absolutely refuse to eat it. When you hear stories about people putting hair or blood into homemade sweets, you can understand why someone might feel uncomfortable—after all, you really don’t know what’s in them.

I’d be happy to receive something, and items around that price are actually easier to eat or take home without it feeling awkward or becoming a hassle, so they’re perfectly fine. That said, I also understand that, considering those circumstances, some people may not bring a souvenir at all—and that’s perfectly fine too. As for homemade gifts, I’d be happy if it were something made just for me. I think all of this depends on the nature of the relationship as well. Are you close enough to call it a relationship, or do you simply meet for arranged dates a few times a month? If there’s a genuine relationship, I might send a local specialty from a trip to the woman’s home (it’s easier to send it than to buy souvenirs when traveling with family), while she might send me photos from her trip in real time or bring me something back from an overseas trip. After looking at Mac’s ID information: If things have been building up that well, you can just continue as you have been. You don’t need to do anything. Whether she accepts souvenirs or not won’t change anything. Even calculating women may give someone a small gift, so it won’t have any real impact at all.

I think a papa who gives you souvenirs would be happy if you gave him one in return. The way people behave is often a reflection of what they themselves want others to do for them—even if they aren’t consciously aware of it. That’s one of the most basic principles of dealing with people, so it’s good to cultivate that perspective in your everyday life. A papa who would worry about what to do with a souvenir he received in the first place wouldn’t give the questioner one. When you give a souvenir to a papa who gives you souvenirs, he may be even happier thinking, “Ah, this girl shares my values.” In his own mind, he might describe that feeling as, “This girl has good common sense,” without realizing that the true source of his happiness is feeling understood. Of course, it’s different when you’re trying to get him hooked. In that case, don’t casually give him something in return. Instead, make it clear that you’re not satisfied yet—that this isn’t enough for you. Mention the kinds of things you’ve received from other papas or how well they’ve treated you. You shouldn’t do this right from the beginning of the relationship, though. Wait until you’ve built a certain level of rapport. The “souvenir in return for a souvenir” idea I mentioned above will only make him happy. It won’t help you turn a small investment into a big payoff. It might help a little with maintaining a comfortable, long-term relationship, though. Here’s another little trick: instead of giving him the entire box of souvenirs, say it contains eight pieces—open the box and give him just one. That way, it won’t be a burden, you can still say you gave him a souvenir, and it’s easy on your wallet. If you say, “I’m sorry, I don’t have much money to spare. I give them to all my friends this way too,” it somehow comes across as cute. You could also add a handwritten note saying, “Thank you for everything.” That might give him quite a heart-fluttering moment. Even if he doesn’t think much of it at the time, the memory will gradually grow on him whenever he thinks back to it. I looked up your history afterward, and you’re the person who asked the third question. “I’d like advice on whether I should tell my fiancé how much I have in savings.” I always enjoy reading this site. I’ve been registered with Universe for six years, and have been earning a salary as an office worker for seven and a half years... 2024/10/18 12:26 Female, 20s, Universe female member “Sometimes, when I turn down someone who tries to go for a second round, they look a little disappointed, and I don’t really like that feeling… I’m being asked...” 2024/09/10 08:22 Female, 20s, Universe female member I assumed you were a college student or something because the question was so cute, so I wrote my answer that way. But if you’re 28 and have 17 million yen in savings, giving him just one piece from an eight-piece box doesn’t really suit you. In that case, a small amount of something like handmade cookies—enough to eat right there—might suit you better.