If you don’t want to lie, you could probably just give a vague answer along the lines of:
“Why are you asking me that?”
“I’d rather not answer.”
“I just want to enjoy spending time with my papa (a male supporter) right now.”
It’s better than having him not feel jealous at all, since it shows he has feelings for you. Just handle it tactfully. Depending on how you respond, you might even be able to gain the upper hand.
“Is he your ex?”
“I’d rather not talk about the past.”
I think that would be enough. The past is the past, and the present is the present—you’re allowed to keep them separate.
Some men may ask out of jealousy, but others may simply want to know what other men do and what you’re like.
In that case, I don’t think they’d be put off by whatever you say, so being honest might actually work in your favor.
That said, until you can tell which type of person he is, I think it’s perfectly reasonable not to say anything.
Thank you for your question.
My name is Kurosaki from the Shinsaibashi branch of Universe Club.
“How did you used to flirt with your ex?”
→ “I have before, but I completely forgot because flirting with you, ○○ (my papa or boyfriend), is just so much better ♪”
“Did you ever stay on the phone all night?”
→ “I never have before, but if it were with you, ○○ (my papa or boyfriend), I’d want to do it every day ♪”
“How much did that accessory cost? If you don’t know, did your ex give it to you?”
→ “It was ○○ hundred thousand yen! I saved up my paycheck by cutting back and bought it myself ♪”
(After checking the original retail price.)
How about answers like these?
I intentionally made them sound a little coy and calculated.
It really depends on the kind of relationship you want to build and the other person’s personality, so it’s difficult to give one definitive best answer…
“Did you act all lovey-dovey with your ex like this too?” → “My ex wasn’t really the type to do that.”
“Did you ever stay on the phone all night?” → “No.”
“How much did that accessory cost? If you don’t know, does that mean your ex gave it to you?” → “I bought it on Mercari. It was about 10,000 yen.”
Things like these don’t count as lies. You’re just returning whatever ball they throw at you. You can simply deflect each question on the spot, almost by reflex, so I don’t think you need to overthink it. The questioner is thinking too hard.
Answer 2
How did you break up with your ex?
I often ask this during the first meeting.
① Your boyfriend cheated, ② you cheated, ③ your boyfriend was abusive, ④ he couldn’t handle how dependent you were, ⑤ you gradually stopped seeing each other and drifted apart, ⑥ your boyfriend had debt… Were there any others?
I ask because, although it’s not exactly a personality test, sometimes you can get a glimpse of a girl’s true personality from her answer. Whether she’s jealous, controlling toward her partner, unable to stand not being given constant attention, and so on.
As for answering questions about your ex, you can be honest, but make sure to mention your feelings of frustration or sadness over the breakup in one sentence.
“But he cheated on me.”
“But he didn’t give me enough attention.”
It’s an advanced technique for turning a papa’s jealousy into affection. You need to create an atmosphere where you seem hurt or lonely. I think this works well for people who aren’t good at coming up with lies on the spot.
Answer 3
Let’s seriously think of some model answers.
“Did you act all lovey-dovey with your ex like this too?” → Without saying anything, move close to him, maybe put your arms around him and just stay there. Or quietly kiss him on the lips.
“Did you ever stay on the phone all night?” → Say, “Is that okay?” and gaze steadily into his eyes.
“How much did that accessory cost? If you don’t know, does that mean your ex gave it to you?” → “If you buy me something nicer, I’ll throw this away right in front of you.”
How’s that?
I’m bored since no new questions have come in, so I’ll write a little more.
Answer 4
The questioner assumes that the reason the papa said those things was jealousy, but let’s suppose it was envy instead.
“Did you act all lovey-dovey with your ex like this too?” → (I want to act lovey-dovey too!)
“Did you ever stay on the phone all night?” → (I want to stay on the phone all night too!)
“How much did that accessory cost? If you don’t know, does that mean your ex gave it to you?” → (I want to be adored enough that someone would keep wearing an accessory I gave them even after we broke up!)
If you assume it’s jealousy, you’ll have trouble knowing how to respond. But if you see it as a clue to figuring out what the papa wants, wouldn’t it naturally become easier to determine how to answer?
Answer 5
If he starts going on about your ex, just kiss him and silence him before he can say another word, regardless of what he says.
I don’t know what the man is trying to find out by asking that, so I’m not sure what the best response would be.
Personally, I wondered why she wouldn’t just answer honestly.
