Lately, it seems my papa has a favorite hostess at a cabaret club.
I can’t help feeling jealous, and I’m really worried that he may no longer need me.
I’d appreciate any advice on how to keep my papa interested in me.
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Isn’t that papa also seeing other women doing papa-katsu?
If he’s dating multiple women, wouldn’t it feel more like one of them simply became a hostess at a cabaret club?
A hostess who uses pillow tactics might be a bit of a formidable rival, but many women work as hostesses because they’d rather avoid sex as much as possible.
You’ve gotten offers too, and you’re attractive enough to date a papa who can afford cabaret clubs, so you probably don’t need to worry that much.
That papa is young, isn’t he?
Fuu also goes to cabaret clubs for work entertaining, but the conversations don’t click. They’re young and feel too loud. Hostesses at Ginza’s smaller clubs are more composed and would be fine, though...
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Although papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and hostess clubs are different in what they’re looking for, I’ll get close to a hostess if we click and sometimes go with her to the club as a companion. But there have also been times when we’ve gone out for meals privately or even developed a more intimate relationship.
In my case, I treat them about equally—to the point that I sometimes have trouble balancing my time between them.
If a girl is only interested in taking me out to dinner and then bringing me to the club as part of her sales routine, I’m fine with it at first, but I usually fade out pretty quickly.
When we can’t meet, it’s a given that we keep in touch regularly on LINE. I also send casual selfies or photos capturing everyday moments, like, “I went here with my friends!” I think sharing that kind of glimpse into your daily life helps create a sense of closeness and keeps you near the top of her mind as someone she’s always interested in.
The hostess I’m currently seeing outside the club is incredibly good at keeping the conversation going on LINE—better than anyone I’ve ever met. She sends such lovely messages that I find myself reading them over and over. (She sends private photos, too.)
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If you’re not the type looking for a romantic relationship, I don’t think you need to worry about becoming unnecessary, since papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and hostess clubs fulfill different needs.
That said, money can quickly add up at hostess clubs, so make sure to manage your schedule carefully so you don’t end up seeing your papa (a male supporter) less often.
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For starters, the questioner should try working a trial shift at a hostess club and learn how to flatter men and keep them wrapped around their finger.
Ideally, get that papa to tell you which club the hostess works at, then work as her helper and pick up her techniques.
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Even if he has a favorite hostess, I don’t think you need to worry as long as he still wants to meet you. That said, don’t let your guard down. Try to understand what he wants and respond accordingly so that he continues to like you.
If it seems like his feelings are shifting toward his favorite hostess, you may need to take action. However, whether you should pursue him or give him some space probably depends on whether he likes being pursued or prefers a little distance.
Think carefully about what kind of women he likes, and act accordingly.
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My absolute favorite girl brings out the heavy artillery whenever she’s in a pinch.
I have a few close, wholesome girls too, but they can’t compete with that. She wins me over with ease, and I end up thinking, “Yep, I like her best after all ♡”
Men are simple.
As a basic technique, I’d say more kissing is effective. Unexpected kisses work well on your average papa (a male supporter).
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We don’t know that man. Rather than asking strangers blunt questions, I think it would be better to communicate with him in your own way, think things through, and then act accordingly. That’s my advice.
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