Am I simply not suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because it’s taking such a toll on me?

What an ordeal. It’s not even that you chose to end things—the other person called it quits despite you putting up with all that. Well, judging by the circumstances, it’s probably for the best that it ended. There are plenty of men registered, so I hope you meet a good papa. This may be a mean thought, but when I see how many strange papas there are, I can’t help feeling happy that Fuu’s value goes up because she doesn’t do things like that lol. Sorry for taking pleasure in someone else’s misfortune.

I’ve never given a luxury-brand gift. That makes me wonder: how much is your average allowance for an adult relationship (intimate)? That said, a man like the one you described should be reported to the staff right away (and in some cases, it may even be a matter for the police). But if you’re receiving multiple offers like this, your profile may be attracting that type of person. It’s better than having no offers at all, so you could try to negotiate an amount you’re satisfied with—or cut them off and move on to the next one.

Even if you didn’t do papa-katsu, wouldn’t you still be thinking, “I’m short on living expenses, so I want to die, I want to die”? If so, it doesn’t seem like papa-katsu itself is what’s causing you to feel depressed. You’ve summed up the four papas in one or two lines each, but why not also remember the good things—not just the bad—and summarize those in one or two lines as well? Human memory generally tends to retain only the negative parts. There’s a reason for that. Memory was originally built into living creatures to help them avoid danger in the future. Remembering fun experiences doesn’t help you avoid future danger, does it? That’s why pleasant memories are easy to forget, while negative things get stored first. You’ve never heard that theory before, have you? I only came up with it a little while ago. Anyway, if you don’t force yourself to remember the fun times as well as the unpleasant ones and burn them into your memory, things get unbalanced. If you don’t do that, you’ll end up depressed like the person asking this question. People who think, “Nothing good has ever happened in my life. I’m depressed; I should just die,” are usually like that. In my columns and answers here, I basically write only positive, self-affirming things. As I’ve said many times, putting things into words can bind you. Some people, especially those from the Kansai region, deal with their failures by turning them into funny stories and laughing them off, but I don’t have that kind of skill. I write only about the fun parts, and only about the attractive qualities of the girls. Some people may resent me and think, “What a conceited old guy,” but that’s why. A lot of the male answerers here write bragging stories all the time, don’t they? Sometimes it even seems like they don’t care about answering the question and are just hammering out one boast after another. And that’s fine. They’re putting it into words to encourage themselves—and, if necessary, rewrite their memories. The past can be changed if you have the writing skills. You write and write, striking at those unpleasant memories in order to blow them away. That’s another way of finding the strength to live. You don’t have to put unpleasant memories into words. They won’t disappear just because you do; they’ll remain there in a muddled form somewhere in your unconscious. When you find yourself in a similar situation again, they’ll serve as the source of an instinctive reaction to avoid it. The men answering here have achieved a certain level of success. Don’t you think the fact that such people tend to have strong self-esteem and write mostly about their accomplishments suggests that this kind of attitude makes it easier to succeed? Some papas who constantly brag may be doing it for the same reason. Instead of writing, they talk. Anyway, try observing papas as human beings in that way. They’re pretty interesting creatures. Men are generally the ones making the offers, so they may or may not know whether women like or dislike them. But if you’re a woman receiving an offer, then the papa in front of you liked you, wanted to meet you, and even paid money to do so, right? Isn’t that amazing? In real life, how often do you meet someone willing to spend tens of thousands of yen just to come see you? Just thinking about that would make me happy enough. That’s why I like reverse offers. They may not pay me, but they’ve taken an interest in me. I started answering again about a month ago, and for now I’ve found one sweet girl through a reverse offer. I wonder if she’s reading this? I love you. I’m looking forward to seeing you again next week. She’s so cute. I can’t wait to stroke her head and everything else again, and continue with this and that. Girls with no prior experience really are wonderful. Because they’re so inexperienced, while I’m adjusting to them, before I know it I get drawn in and start feeling as though I’m truly in love. Mr. Loser played the “girl who climaxes from penetration” card, so I’ll counter with the “B1 virgin” card. What is this, a card game? lol

You should stop doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) right away. You seem to remember all the unpleasant parts very clearly. If you can’t let go of them to some extent and the experience has left you with nothing but bad memories, it’s best not to do it again.

Everyone has things they’re suited and unsuited for. From what I can tell, you may be better suited to working in the adult industry than to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Whether it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or the adult industry, some people use these experiences to make their lives more fulfilling, while others simply complain about them. Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) may be looked down on publicly as something no one should do, but that’s precisely why, for those who need it and are suited to it, nothing can make life feel better. For men, it can become indispensable with age. Women, too, may gain benefits that feel like a dream. I’m sure there’s a path and choice somewhere out there that can make your life shine as well.

What kind of women are suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? If I had to name one type, I’d say women who absolutely love sex are well-suited to papa-katsu. I met someone like that recently. She was a Type B, but things progressed to an adult relationship (intimate) on the very first day. During sex, she was convulsing and rolling her eyes back. I asked, “Do you want to stop? Are you okay?” and she said, “Harder. Don’t stop,” so I kept going until she was practically spent. Another type that’s well-suited is a woman who “doesn’t care if he’s short, overweight, and bald.” I met a woman like that last month. She was a total Black and the cutest girl I’d ever met at Universe Club, but she said she really didn’t care at all about him being short, overweight, or bald. Women like that are well-suited to papa-katsu, don’t you think?

From what I’ve heard from female members I know, they’ve certainly received offers from unpleasant people, but overall, they seem to be enjoying themselves. That said, I don’t think you can assume all women have the same experience. I can’t say what my own partner truly feels, but I do occasionally hear about women who have fallen for the men they’re seeing—even though those men aren’t their partners. In any case, judging from your question, this arrangement may not be right for you. I don’t think you should do anything that makes you feel like you want to die.