I was also shocked by Aya’s answer to this question.

Women judge whether you’re truly generous by how you treat the value of the few thousand yen you usually give. Of course, anyone would be happy to receive a large amount of money. But women who join a dating club or start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) usually do so because they have serious needs and have made a firm decision, so what matters is whether you’re someone who understands and respects that perspective… Money has incredible power, but there’s no denying that it can also become exhausting when the relationship grows so close that it’s hard to walk away.

Those kinds of assumptions and attempts to impose your values are exactly what make the other person shut down completely. Everything in this world is impermanent and constantly changing, so when it comes to someone else’s feelings, just think of it as, “I’m doing this because I want to,” and leave it at that. Personally, if finding out that someone dislikes you changes your feelings toward them, I have to wonder what those feelings really were in the first place.

I’m 1000% sure Aya will ignore this, so instead, I had the latest generative AI, ChatGPT-o1, analyze it. Here’s what it came up with. ChatGPT-o1’s answer The person asking this question appears, on the surface, to be expressing concern for Aya, but it’s highly likely that he’s actually projecting his own anxiety and doubts. Here’s why. First, the questioner says that he was moved when Aya answered a month ago that “our relationship isn’t unstable.” However, in response to Aya’s latest comment, he emphasizes his surprise and anxiety, using strong language such as “This is way too scary.” This reaction to the change suggests that it stems not from superficial concern, but from anxiety over his own position and the possibility that his relationship with her is becoming unstable. Furthermore, toward the end of the question, the questioner also touches on the meaning of supporting Aya. In doing so, he focuses on the possibility that Aya might “grow to dislike him more and more” and become independent, no longer fearing her papa. From this perspective, it can be concluded with near certainty that the questioner’s real concern is jealousy and fear over being rejected by Aya. In other words, although he appears to be expressing concern for Aya, the true nature of his feelings is almost certainly jealousy toward her. That was ChatGPT-o1’s answer. There’s absolutely no need to worry about Aya or defend her. Her one-and-only ally, her papa of seven years, is already taking care of that, so there’s not the slightest need for anyone else to butt in. If you really want to get involved, I think you should become an answerer yourself. Members of Universe Club can become answerers.

Everyone seems to be getting thoroughly stuck in the “like” and “dislike” swamp that Ayaka the magician probably conjured up on a whim. I get the feeling Ayaka enjoys these kinds of “games.” Still, someone like me who throws cold water on things is probably the last person the questioner wants an answer from, so I’ll make myself scarce. I imagine women getting hooked on hosts works much the same way. Sorry—I know this may be irritating to the questioner, but I had a thought and wanted to write it down. There’s something called the “heaven-and-hell principle.” It’s one technique for heightening pleasure, and abusive men often use it: if you hurt someone thoroughly and then treat them gently afterward, the contrast creates pleasure, effectively doubling it. Tsundere behavior works by the same mechanism. So if you send messages saying things like “I hate you,” “I absolutely hate you,” or “Go die, old man,” and then act sincerely sweet and affectionate afterward, the pleasure is intensified. Maybe the questioner made an offer to Ayaka the tsundere magician expecting exactly that? I think this is fairly common among wealthy papas who have grown bored of women constantly telling them how much they love them. Ayaka’s extremely generous papa also seems to enjoy her verbal abuse, so maybe that’s the case. If you want to meet someone skilled in this sort of technique, try making offers to around ten Black or Platinum members on Univa. You’ll probably find at least one. I searched for and read the previous question about the apartment. I came up with one possible way to put the apartment in the PJ’s name without paying gift tax: 1. Purchase the apartment in the woman’s name. 2. Have the man pay for it. 3. Have the man draw up a loan agreement with the woman for the full amount. However, only the woman keeps the agreement; the man doesn’t. 4. Every year, have the man send the woman a receipt stating, “Repayment received: ¥1.1 million.” Wouldn’t it be better to prepare and hand over receipts covering about 20 years all at once? That said, the statute of limitations for gift tax is seven years, so seven years’ worth might be enough. What do you think? Wouldn’t this resolve the questioner’s concern that “it’s scary because the papa can cancel it at his sole discretion”? Since the papa doesn’t have the loan agreement, he has no way to demand repayment even if the relationship falls apart. I’m not a tax accountant, so this is just something I thought of. The reason I came up with it is that I heard a PJ who was audited by the tax authorities avoided additional taxes using something similar. Apparently, she asked a close papa to lend her his name and had a loan agreement prepared that only she possessed. Borrowed money isn’t taxable. Of course, it was probably a testament to her character that she had built such a good relationship with a papa she could ask for something like that. I hope this helps.