Do men who pay for sex usually want things like licking a woman’s anus or toes, recording themselves during sex, or using various toys?
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All of my ex-boyfriends were pretty vanilla, and not one of them had any unusual kinks like that.
Do they ask for the sexual things they can’t show their wives or girlfriends in exchange for paying?
Don’t they ever worry that a woman might dislike them or think they’re gross for doing things like that?
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I do think men may feel more comfortable revealing their kinks when money is involved.
If a papa says he wants to do something like that through papa-katsu and you’re not okay with it, you can end the arrangement. Papa-katsu involves sex with money changing hands, and the biggest advantage is that the woman can refuse.
What counts as an acceptable kink? That varies from person to person.
If you’re going to do papa-katsu, I think it’s best to discuss it thoroughly with your papa and decide together.
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I think I’m actually kind of into the idea of being intimate with a girl who has a boyfriend, in the love hotel she normally goes to with him. Maybe that’s a fetish of mine.
It’s also interesting that, in most cases, the girl doesn’t seem to mind at all. Actually, it only happens because the girls are the ones who invite me.
Since I’m the one paying, I’m even more careful than I would be with a regular girlfriend, so I could never suggest anything too unusual. If anything, they’re more likely to ask me to do things they can’t ask their boyfriends to do.
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I think you’re right—it’s precisely because he’s paying.
If he just wanted someone willing to have ordinary sex, he could find plenty of people. But there are probably things he can only do because he’s paying for them.
He understands better than anyone how difficult it is to get someone to accept his particular preferences, so I think he uses money to lower that barrier.
Of course, the people you meet through a club aren’t the only options, so I hope you find someone whose preferences don’t make you uncomfortable.
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I think people like that have probably had similar relationships with girlfriends their own age in the past.
And since you’re comparing him to the boyfriends you’ve had before, I don’t think you necessarily disliked them or found them gross when they did those things either. Men are probably the same: if they haven’t been rejected or called gross for it in the past, they may continue doing it now.
That said, when I think of “abnormal” preferences, I imagine things like baby play, enemas, BDSM, spanking, or swapping. What you described this time doesn’t seem to go quite that far.
You might want to visit a shunga exhibition sometime.
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I don’t do anything like the activities mentioned in the example.
A dating club is for arrangements that involve financial support—it’s not a place that arranges niche sexual activities.
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Personally, I’ve engaged in mutual ass-licking with women I had relationships with without any allowance involved. I’ve also licked toes, made homemade sex videos, and used toys.
Licking toes and using toys aren’t really my kinks, so it’s rare, but I’ll do them if my partner wants to. So I don’t see it as something I’m doing in exchange for money.
Even outside compensated relationships, there are couples who engage in the kinds of activities you mentioned. Women I’ve met through dating clubs often ask me to do things like bondage or choking because they got into it with an ex, and some women even show me homemade sex videos they made with other men.
The main reason is probably that it’s easier to suggest these things when you’re in a casual relationship with someone you met through a dating club and have no other connection with outside of it.
It’s similar to how people find it easier to share their kinks with a friends-with-benefits partner, and are more likely to become friends with benefits with someone whose kinks match their own.
You seem to want to lump us all together as “men who pay for sex,” but everyone has different kinks and perspectives.
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