I live in Shiomi, Koto City. Some time ago, there was a murder in a condominium near my home—the so-called Koto City “Kamikakushi” condominium murder, in which a woman was killed, dismembered, and parts of her body were flushed down the toilet or left at a dumping area. I saw a YouTube clip of the culprit laughing as he told a TV interviewer, “Things have really gotten out of hand, haven’t they?”
I don’t think any of the male members would be so extreme as to dismember someone and flush them down the toilet or throw them in a trash bin, but are there men with unusual sexual preferences or hobbies—for example, cross-dressing, an interest in BDSM, wanting to tie someone up, taking nude photos during an intimate encounter, recording their voice, or asking for their underwear?
Also, when seeing men through a dating club, I realize this is an extreme example, but should I keep in mind that I could potentially be “killed” in a private room such as a hotel? It might be about as likely as being suddenly hit by a car speeding down the street, but…
Is it fair to say that I need to keep the risks of being alone in a private room in mind as well?
With a matching app, you’re on your own, so I think there’s inevitably a certain level of risk.
But here at Universe Club:
- Members earn enough to pay at least the annual membership fee and offer fees.
- The club has their identification documents on file.
- If they do anything inappropriate, they’ll be forcibly removed from the club—which means they can’t enjoy the service and their annual fee goes to waste.
So compared with using matching apps or X, I think it’s relatively safer. Not perfectly safe, of course.
Even though Universe Club is relatively safe, you still need to be prepared to protect yourself. If someone says or does something strange at the first meeting, have the courage to turn them down. Once you agree to something at the beginning, it can become the default.
So please prepare yourself properly as a papa-katsu woman and approach this activity with that in mind.
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Even if you limit it to “among the male members,” if people like that exist in society, I think they’re likely to be found everywhere in roughly the same proportion. There may even be someone like that at the workplace where you work.
With that in mind, I think it’s important to consider not only the narrow scope of dating clubs, but the broader world of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—or, more broadly still, to recognize that there are various risks in life.
If you anticipate those risks in advance and think about how to deal with them, you’ll be better able to act when something actually happens.
Some people may feel that disaster drills are pointless, but if you haven’t anticipated anything, your mind can go blank and you may be unable to do anything in an emergency. Simply knowing what to do beforehand makes it possible to take action when the time comes.
So I think it’s a good idea to consider various risks and prepare ways to deal with them.
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There are men with unusual kinks, but I don’t think you’re going to get killed. Especially with a dating club, the club has both members’ personal information, which alone serves as a deterrent against crime.
You call it an unusual kink, but to that person, it’s normal—and without it, they may find it difficult to get aroused. In fact, I think many men use clubs because they’re looking for women who can fulfill those preferences. Since it’s a matching service, you can simply decline if you’re not comfortable with it.
Incidentally, there are also women who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because they’re looking for someone who can satisfy unusual preferences they can’t tell their boyfriend about. Of course, money is their main motivation, but that can be the second reason.
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Nothing is ever guaranteed, but since both men and women have to submit identification to register with the club, I don’t think serious crimes are very common...
I haven’t heard of theft or hidden-camera incidents among people I know, but I’ve heard they’ve happened in the past, so it’s best to be careful about those kinds of situations.
You should also be cautious if someone invites you to their home from the very first meeting.
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> For example, are there people with unusual sexual preferences or interests, such as enjoying cross-dressing, being into BDSM, tying someone up, taking nude photos during intimacy, recording their partner’s voice, or wanting their underwear?
I’m sure there are. You generally can’t tell what someone’s into from their usual demeanor or the way they interact with others. Even your female friend might secretly be into BDSM, and the man you passed by somewhere today might have a thing for underwear.
Personally, I think finding someone whose preferences and interests match your own is part of the fun of meeting people this way.
As for the second half, I don’t really worry about it. If someone were truly that dangerous, you’d probably get a sense of it after having dinner and talking with them for two hours, wouldn’t you? And if they’re impossible to read even then, there’s not much you can do.
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