The men who say things like “Quit the site” or “We’re already dating” are often the same ones who offer a low allowance—or say, “Since we’re dating, you don’t need an allowance, right?”
Isn’t it strange that men can date several women while demanding that women commit to just one and quit the site?
You’re probably thinking, “Who do you think you are?”
Say goodbye to men like that. They’re violating Universe’s rules, so report them to the staff.
Karasaki from Universe Club’s Yokohama branch here.
In short, it is possible to hide your profile from a specific male member. However, as others have pointed out, there is a risk that he could still see it through a friend’s page.
That could lead to serious trouble, so it may be best to honestly explain how you feel.
As the other respondents mentioned, it will be automatically hidden for now, but there’s still a risk that the lie will be exposed.
I also think it would be better to discuss the amount of support once.
Even if you manage to reach an agreement, don’t delete your account right away. Put it on hold so your profile is hidden from everyone, keep your spot, and see how things develop.
Men who have made an offer can no longer automatically view the profile of the woman they offered to, so I don’t think there’s any need to ask her to change her settings.
That said, as others have mentioned, if you lie too casually, people the male member knows may still be able to see your profile, exposing the lie.
I think it would be better to discuss the terms that would make you feel comfortable focusing on just one person.
At Universe Club, you can set your profile so that specific people can’t see it.
So that kind of setting is possible, but the men know about it too (probably because it was mentioned in the Q&A), and some men even get acquaintances to join Universe or actively attend events to make male friends. Then they may check things like, “Can you see this girl from your side?”
(It’s pretty sneaky.)
In that case, you’ll be found out, so I think you should even come up with an excuse in advance for when that happens.
Also, Article 12 (Prohibited Activities) of the terms states:
“(3) Verbal abuse, violence, harassment, stalking, or any act of forcing a member or one of our employees to withdraw from the service or resign from the company.”
So telling someone to quit is a violation of the terms.
Ideally, saying something like that should result in a serious penalty, such as forced withdrawal. In reality, though, they only issue warnings, which is why there’s no shortage of men who tell women they want them to quit.
Since it violates the terms, I feel they should simply force those men to withdraw.
Besides, if a man is telling a woman to quit, he probably wouldn’t have anything to lose if he himself got kicked out, either. So forced withdrawal shouldn’t scare him that much…
As for how to respond:
A: “What? Is it okay for me to quit? That’s wonderful. Would a monthly allowance of one million yen be okay? You were aiming for one million, weren’t you?”
B: Say, “Understood,” then ask the staff to hide that man from your profile. Also explain that he told you he wanted you to quit.
If he says, “You haven’t quit, because other men can still see you, right?”
Say, “Oh? I told the staff I was quitting, though. I’ll check with them tomorrow.”
If he says the same thing again later, repeat the same response.
Something along those lines, I suppose?
I think it would be tough unless you learn how to handle men like that, so it may be better to get some experience while you can.
Still, it’s amazing how many men demand that women quit even though they have no intention of quitting themselves…
If they aren’t going to quit, I don’t think they should expect women to, either.
Occasionally, a man will even say in advance, “I’m going to send you a message saying I’m quitting, but it’s just for appearances, so don’t actually process my withdrawal.”
So be careful!!!
P.S. > These days, the profile of the woman they made an offer to automatically becomes invisible to the man who made the offer, so I don’t think you need to have this setting applied anymore.
That’s true.
Still, I’d be worried if they forgot to hide it or something (I don’t really trust Universe, haha), so I think it might be better to check just in case.
I’m not sure how things are now, but I believe the staff told me it was possible when I asked them about it before.
That said, I remember them not really recommending it, since even if you hide it from a specific person—like a possessive papa (a male supporter)—his friends might see it and let him know anyway.
