I have children and would like to receive financial support, but women with kids aren’t very popular, are they?

I believe women of every age have their own appeal, and there are men who are attracted to that appeal. When it comes to women with children, what I’m more concerned about is whether they have a lot of restrictions on the days and times they can meet. For example, single mothers with young children can usually only meet during weekday daytime hours, which would probably be difficult terms for a salaried papa. If their husband or ex-husband actively helps take care of the children, it can be a little easier to coordinate schedules. On the other hand, some women have older children and don’t need to look after them in the evenings or on weekends, giving them much more flexibility in when they can meet. I’m currently seeing a woman in her 40s who falls into this category. We’re close in age, and she looks youthful and has a youthful figure, so perhaps it doesn’t feel like typical papa-katsu, but there’s a mistress-like or pseudo-affair feeling to it, which I find interesting in its own way. I’m also in my 40s, by the way. That said, personally, I think it would be difficult for things to develop into a serious relationship from there. I thought the systems engineer’s suggestion to consult the staff was a good one. There’s at least a possibility that the staff know unmarried or divorced male members who are genuinely looking for a real relationship.

It seems like supply and demand are fairly well balanced for both men and women, regardless of age. Women in their late 30s with children aren’t particularly popular, but there are also very few registered women in that demographic, so the supply-and-demand balance seems to work out. That said, it’s possible to find a regular girlfriend without an allowance, even with an age gap of around 30 years—some men don’t make offers at all. So if you’re open to marriage, you’d probably get there much faster through a different avenue.

Having children doesn’t necessarily make you unpopular. However, if your children are very young, dates may often have to be canceled at the last minute because one of them comes down with a fever. Men understand that these things can’t be helped with small children, but those who have experienced it may start avoiding women with young children. Likewise, some men would like to travel together. If they’ve been told that traveling is difficult because of the children, they may decide they’d prefer a woman without children. That said, these men are a minority overall, so I don’t think it has a significant impact. However, if you’re looking to remarry from the very beginning, you may be looking in the wrong place. If you feel sorry at the thought of your child having a papa (a male supporter) in his or her 60s, then I think you’d be better off using a marriage agency. A dating club is, at its core, mainly for dating. Men probably aren’t expecting to meet the woman’s children, so I think it’s best to focus on the relationship itself.

Are they unpopular? Personally, two of the women I’ve dated through an upscale dating club had children. I never thought, “I won’t make an offer because she has kids,” and from what they told me, they received offers normally. Dating clubs aren’t places to find a marriage partner, so I think it would be difficult to meet someone through one and eventually get married. Marriage is already uncommon among people who meet through dating clubs, and adding age as another factor would make the chances even lower. I think you’d be better off looking for a remarriage partner through a marriage agency.

Single mothers receive offers too, so it may have some impact, but ultimately, I think it depends on your potential. Come to think of it, I once saw a woman on a dating club profile who was also looking for a marriage partner while using the club, although it wasn’t at the branch I belong to. Why not talk it over with the staff?