There seem to be a lot of questions about “older men,” but what do women think about offers from younger men or men around their own age?
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I’m in my 40s, and I’m also attracted to women around my age or older. We wouldn’t draw strange looks just by being seen together over a meal, and honestly, compared with women in their 20s, I feel we’d have more in common in terms of maturity and conversation.
I’m a little worried that people might think, “Why not just meet normally instead of doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?” Personally, I’m fine with a relationship that exists only when we meet, rather than being boyfriend and girlfriend. But I also wonder whether women see me simply as a man who can’t get anyone else’s attention. I don’t actually mind women calling me unpopular, though…
For the women here, what do you think about offers from men around your age or younger?
I’d appreciate hearing your thoughts.
Before it’s about being attracted to a woman, women’s main priority when seeking a papa or an adult relationship with a man is the allowance—the money. So they’re not necessarily particular about looks or age.
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Thank you for your question!
Actually, I’ve been favorited by someone younger than me before.
I was simply happy about it…
So I put my heart into my thank-you message for the like, only to find that they’d removed me from their favorites (sob).
I’m looking forward to your offers ♡
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Isn’t it rather presumptuous to judge people by lumping them into ten-year age brackets?
I’m sure you already know this if you’re in your forties, but things like how settled or composed someone seems depend far more on their personality and the situation than on their age.
Besides, if older people are supposedly more composed, you’d expect there to be far fewer problems caused by male members, most of whom are over forty.
As Mac wrote in response to Flagmaker’s answer, I’ve also heard from two women that women around thirty are wary of developing genuine romantic feelings for male members in their thirties.
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I’ve asked women about this before, and they don’t seem to care whether a man is younger or around their own age. If anything, many young women are more likely to feel uncomfortable with men who are much older.
I think it’s probably because young women mostly interact with men around their own age and have less experience in society. They simply haven’t had many opportunities to interact with older men. For example, once they start working at a company of a certain size, they’ll likely encounter plenty of older men. So I think this is just a difference in experience.
There should be no problem with making an offer to women around your age or older, and I don’t think many women would turn you down for that reason. If you were rejected, I’d guess it was probably related to your occupation.
Feel free to make offers with confidence.
> They might think, “Why not just meet normally instead of through this kind of papa-katsu?”
These women have registered because they want a relationship with an allowance, so none of them will be thinking that you should just meet normally. If a man were to say he shouldn’t have to provide an allowance simply because he’s around their age, the club would receive a complaint.
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If you’re looking for someone around your age or older, there aren’t many people in their 40s here, so you might have better luck using a dating app or Happy Mail.
It seems like there are also quite a few people looking for a transactional relationship involving an allowance—something along the lines of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or enjo kōsai.
The allowance is probably lower than what you’d get here, though.
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